I love cats, therefore... in The Napkin.

Think about it. I have four cats. They’re all different. They all want adorable in different ways.

…Just saying the obvious. Communicate, listen to your partner. Ask “What do you like beforehand.”

If I raise my hand just behind Major Kira’s head, she rises up to be scratched.

T’Pol likes food. And sleeping near my feet or armpits.

Alice is a slut. She likes all attention. But adores when I cradle her, stroking her underside.

Mr. Boi..... .... I just keep him safe.

Talk, listen, respond. Safe, sane, consensual.

It is not so difficult to satisfy a partner so long as you communicate and understand them.