May: Resolution Check in Book Six: Trying to Hold On 2019

I hope but cannot promise that at the beginning of each month, I will review my Yearly Resolutions and chart where I am. It is another way of keeping me honest, keeping me focused, and hopefully- keeping me on track.

Resolutions

(1) Weight Loss
Beginner Goal: Get under 200 lbs.
Intermediate Goal: Get under 170 lbs
Expert Goal: Get back to 160 or less
Path
Beginner Goal: Requires a 3 lb loss per month
Intermediate Goal: Requires a 5 lb loss per month
Expert Goal: Requires a 7 lb loss per month

JANUARY START: 235 lbs.
FEBRUARY START: 226.4
MARCH START: 223
APRIL START: 222
Here’s the thing… as discussed last month, I’m now using two different scales. So this measurement may get… complicated? I’ll post as follows
MAY START. GYM SCALE: 221.0
MAY START HOME SCALE: 119.2
Total Lost 1 Month GYM: 1 lbs
Total Lost 1 Month HOME: N/A
Total Lost Year to Date: 14 lbs

Not perfect but still a measurable loss. Which is very good as I was genuinely worried I had gained. That being said… the Plateau sucks. Since reaching my True Adult Form it seems my body is desperate to stay at or around 220. Clearly, my body and I disagree on this. With 8 months left in the year… if I am going to even hit my Beginner Goal… I’m going to need to lose 3 pounds every month. THAT, at least, hasn’t changed due to the excellent start at the beginning of the year. BUT that also means I’ve burned through my buffer.

(2) Marriage Help
Wife and I get to a point in our marriage where Physical Intimacy exists and is not “the exception” or we begin the process of divorce.

JANUARY START: Counseling Sessions
FEBRUARY START: We’re doing counseling, re-connecting via exercise and board games, doing date nights, and she’s more accepting of kisses and physical closeness. Still no sex, though.
MARCH START: We actually had sex twice last month. That is a good start. But also, we’re seeing some back sliding in other areas. Attempting to create sustainable, consistent change, and healthy lifestyle choices is going to need to be a key focus.
APRIL START Some positives and negatives. In March, knowing how busy I would be… my wife would make Magic Risotto (which can feed one man for three weeks) for me to take with me as lunch. GOOD. She also allowed me a less restrictive alcohol consumption and alone time schedule. GOOD. We almost didn’t have sex the entire month. BAD. We really didn’t do a whole lot together. BAD. But when we did have sex this month, it was spontaneous, extemporaneous, physical, and fun… the most fun in sex we likely have ever had in our marriage. So that’s REALLY GOOD. Then the meltdown over the puppy happened. So that’s shaky.
MAY START: I’d say we’re at a Good News/Bad News Rollercoaster. Good News: Wife got over the puppy meltdown quicker than her meltdown last year; Bad News: Her focus is still primarily on building a relationship with the puppy. Good News: The Puppy is helping Wife and I to see and understand specific things about each other that, but for the puppy, we would not have seen. Bad News: Almost all of our “alone” time is spent with puppy watching television. Bad News: No sex all month.

(3) House Completion
Beginner Goal: Basement Finished
Intermediate Goal: Basement Finished & All Repairs Complete
Expert Goal: Basement Finished & All Repairs Complete & Fence Erected Properly

JANUARY START: Almost finished with Primary Basement Space
FEBRUARY START: All but one or two things finished with Primary Basement Space
MARCH START: Basement space has all furniture (minus dining room chairs) and most electronics properly hooked up. For Basement Completion need CMPtoHDMI converter, Dining Room Chairs.
APRIL START: Basement is, dare I say, entirely finished but for Dining Room Chairs. The entire inside of the house is almost entirely finished but for a few bits and bobs and going through all the required repairs. AND the fence. We get the fence up, the dining room chairs, the 3-Season Room and Back Patio furnitured.... I think our house is “Set Up” :) So… some work to do, but less each month!
MAY START: We still need chairs for the bloody basement but the curtains are up and most of the basement is complete. We are getting the fence up this month and Wife is looking into doing some yard work. I think the House will be one of our real triumphs of the year.

(4) KEEP MY JOB and get better at it.

JANUARY Start: Job kept. Slow Season
FEBRUARY Start: Job kept. Things moving faster. Volunteering to help more.
MARCH Start: Job kept. March promises to be busy, full, and challenging.
APRIL Start: Job kept. Jury Trial under my belt (and a mostly win at that!)
MAY Start: Job kept. Learned how to apply for, obtain, and assist in the execution of DNA Non-Testimonial Identification… so that’s a good thing to learn!