Advice needed in 2018

Help. So my mother was basically the sole caregiver to my gramma for the last 6 years. It’s been way more than that but I guess what I’m saying is she’s been much more ill in the last few years.

She’s now gone from constantly checking in, nursing, making meals, doing finances, and all that- to nothing. She’s lost. She is so lost, I can see it in her eyes. She doesn’t talk much anymore and doesn’t know what to do. She’s different now. I miss my mom. Even tho she’s not really been there for me in the past few years, I can see this change in her.

What can I say or do to help her? What can SHE do to help herself ? She needs to reinvent herself but I have a feeling she won’t. I want to help her but I also don’t want to pressure her right now because it’s so fresh. Should I let her be for now? Should I check on her? Should I suggest things or just reach out? Should I stop reaching out for now? What do I do???

Kristen <3