Just Venting in Book Four: Ichi-no-Tani 2017

Gr. My wife’s negative feelings come out sometimes at the wrong moments.

Last night?
I told my wife of the Bachelor Party through the photographs. She did say I had a better face than many of the blokes; but she repeatedly pointed out that I was the fattest person there and “Oh, look how much bigger your belly is!” or “My God, have you gotten fatter since law school?!”

My day?
Got to work at 7:50. Wrote an entire EB-1 Immigration Letter. Then wrote an I-129F Section 3 Subsection 4 Criminal Records Reasoning for Immigration Purposes today. Chinese Boss had questions and meetings and… frankly… there was a problem. I need to see my client in Boone. It is a 2 hour round trip and the client likes to talk so it is 3 hour issue at best. I need to see him because we have jury trial coming up… it is very important. But… between Chinese Bosses requests, and the multiple speeches she’s set up for me this week… I just had no time for it. So, I worked straight through from 7:50 to 3:20… with nary a billable hour (and no food) until my eye appointment.

GOOD NEWS
My eye pressure has gone down. Still doing the drops for 4 months more but that is excellent news.

So then I come home and grab a sandwich and burger and putter about.

Flash Forward

Wife comes home downright suicidal. Hates her job. Hates her life. Doesn’t ever want to go back to work. Doesn’t ever want to leave the house again. Just very down. Openly stating that she hates everything about her life. I listen patiently. I don’t tell her about my day (at all) and she never asks because she is so very depressed. There isn’t much I can do but listen so I do that.

As she rather settles down, I cruise facebook to find that my reporter friend in California had posted a video about weight loss. https://www.facebook.com/Vox/videos/742811652573106/
If the video doesn’t work; it essentially proves that Exercise is NOT for weight loss. Exercise is good for a healthy life… but it is NOT for weight loss. Wife pretends to be an expert on this already; but turns it around as to how I’m fat and not feeding myself properly. I get a little irked (hopefully, for obvious reasons) and explain to her that she can’t come home desperate to quit her job (a source of income and our source of insurance) and be mad at me that I have to work through lunch so often. Seriously. I put in (physical) over 60 hours a week (this week likely 80 hours because of Back to School firm stuff). I get paid (billable) an offensively small amount. I know that eating Fast Food and that shit is really bad for me. So I don’t eat it when I can help it. But… like… Wife had all of Monday off. And still there was no cooking or food work of any kind. Maybe I’m being an ass by saying this but if she is going to get pissy about my eating and constantly point out how much heavier I’ve gotten (yes… I have gained 70 lbs since we met… 12 years ago.... when I was 20)… maybe she could help?