Feeling down in In the Kingdom of Suzu

Am really feeling down today. My daughter called me the other day and her girls definitely do not want to come back and live with her. she was supposed to get them this past Sunday but the girls said they didn’t want to come for a week, only wanted to have a visit. She also received the papers for modification of custody that her ex even had the girls sign the petition that they don’t want to live with her anymore. My daughter talked to her atty and it doesn’t look good. A is pretty much resolved to just letting them go. She could fight it and even if the judge denied the girls request to live with their dad (14 and 11), at what cost to the girls—they would resent her. The girls came for a visit—for dinner and were affectionate with her but again didn’t want to stay over nor come back and live with her. All she can do is let them know she loves them, this is not something she agrees with or thinks is a good idea, but she will not put them thru the pain of a custody trial and if they change their mind they are welcome to come back.

I thank you all for your thoughts and kindness. I have read many of your entries but am just too emotionally drained to respond. The conversation with my daughter, Alyssa, happened on Wednesday and it is only now can I bring myself to write about it. Jeff went thru a similar situation with his son and it did not turn out well. This with the girls is a flashback for him.

Jeff plays tonight, I haven’t been to a show but need to go to this one, am hoping I can find the strength to go.