I can finally breathe!!! in Since OD is shutting down....

So! Court went very well. He did show up. I had to tell them why I wanted the RO and show proof of him threatening to kill me and the sex tape. When it was his turn to speak, he told them how he’d been baptized and that everyone he had talked to told him to just admit to his wrong doing and just give his word that it would stop. He mentioned having an alcohol addiction and an anger problem and how he’d assaulted some girl about a year ago. Basically he put the nails in his own coffin.

After he was done speaking, the judge looked at him and said, “you need some help” and from there I knew it was going to get granted. The judge said he wasn’t going to do anything about my child because she isn’t born yet. I’ll just have to file again after she’s born and hope that the judge will order supervised visitation which probably won’t be too difficult since we already have an RO. It did get granted for the 5 years. I’m just so glad that this is over and I don’t have to worry about it anymore. I didn’t sleep for shit last night and kept tossing and turning. I’ve spent 6 weeks worrying about this and it feels good to finally be able to take a deep breath and know it’s over.

It definitely doesn’t feel good to get an RO on anyone, especially someone I’m going to have a child with but hopefully he’ll get the help he needs and then if we should ever talk again, we can have a normal, healthy conversation. I do want him to be a part of his child’s life but it’s going to be up to him to figure out how he plans to do that. He said that he’ll have no choice but to come back in May as that’s when his lease is up. He admitted that he doesn’t have school or a job there.

I’m just so fucking glad that this is over. I’m also glad that the judge PROHIBITED him from contacting my friend because he’s already been doing that obviously hoping that whatever he said to her would get back to me and ALL of it has. I let my friend know that if he should contact her to screenshot and send it to me and I’m going to call the Sheriff’s office and see if it’s a violation. I just need him to go away and leave me alone completely.

His little reign of terror has officially ended and damn if it doesn’t feel good. I feel so much better about this situation. I actually feel like I have some control now. I want to feel bad honestly but I also remember why I got the RO in the first place. I was so tired of him threatening me through my friend and then when he sent that sex tape, I became livid and just felt that was the last fucking straw. I remember that day and how I felt as soon as she fucking asked if we had a sex tape. My head was fucking pounding. I felt powerless that this person thought it was acceptable to send something that intimate to my friend!! He’s lucky that her and I are as close as we are or I would have been talking to a damn lawyer!

I would love to understand how he thought he was EVER entitled to threaten, harass, intimidate or bully me! I’m so glad that the RO got granted because if it wouldn’t have, the second we walked out of the court room, he would have blown up my friends phone and started right back in with his threatening, crazy behavior. I know he would have because it didn’t stop until AFTER he got served. He didn’t start being apologetic or nice until he had too and that’s why I can’t help but think he’s not capable of being normal unless he has to.

He dug his own grave and I just hope now that he for sure can’t contact me OR my friend that he’ll do some serious thinking about everything and hopefully some day things could have a really good outcome. I think the RO is a good foundation for us to be able to co-parent in the future. I really hope the best for him and hopefully he’ll get the help he needs because there’s just no fucking way I’m going to deal with his craziness for the rest of my life.

Anyways, I’m gonna go shower and get ready for my day because I work later but I just wanted to update everyone. Thank you for everyone who has left such positive notes, it really did help!!