"BEING 35, SINGLE, AND BRAVE TO THE WORLD" in "WRITER@WORK" BY. THE WORDPLAY WARRIOR

BEING 35:

It’s inevitable. We all grow old. There’s no need to freak out about it. It’s useless anyway.

All you’ve got to do is deal with it as it is. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, married, or “else” (which is widely defined as you please), you’re bound to face this.

Back when I was still in my early 30’s, some people had been shallow enough to try to scare me.

“Ooh, Old Girl. Soon you’ll be way too old for anyone to marry.”

Guess what? Looking back, I realised that what they’d said to me didn’t matter at all.

I mind my own business. If they find my confidence a threat, then it’s their problem. I simply move along. Besides, there are other more serious problems out there.

BEING SINGLE:

How does it feel being single? How does it feel being 35 and still single?

It turns out that it’s not as scary as they’d tried to make me believe. I mean, I’ve been single for as long as I remember. No big deal. There’s no need to fret about it.

Happiness is not absolutely defined by the one you’re/you want to be/you should be with. It starts from you. If you can’t be happy with yourself, then how are you going to make other people feel happy with you?

However, I’m not in denial. Does it get lonely? Of course, but I can still manage. I have to.

Besides, have you ever heard of stories about people in relationships/marriage, yet they still feel lonely - in fact even more so than the singles surrounded by friends?

That’s why I keep myself busy. I enjoy my jobs, my social life with friends and family, and good things that I can still do. Why not?

We only have one life to live, so make the most of it.

So, if you still love making singles feel bad, do yourself a favour:

Take a look at yourself in the mirror first. Make sure that you’re genuinely happy with your own life. If you’re with a partner right now (in a relationship, married, or else), I hope you’re treating them right and vice versa.

Otherwise? Zip it.

I’m thankful that Ma’s with me on this now. Whenever someone asks her about me, this is her response: “Just pray and then wait for her invitation.”

See? It shouldn’t be that hard. Just so simple.

BEING BRAVE TO THE WORLD:

We all have to be brave. There’s no doubt about it.

Am I always brave? Well, it depends on how you would like to see me. All I know is that I’m trying to remain that way, no matter what.

If I fail, that only shows that I am human, just like you too. Nobody has any rights to demand that I should fulfil their ideas of ‘perfection’.

So, what’s it going to be in 2017? What’s my next part?

Stay tuned for more.

**R.

Writer@work.**