Immature in meh...

The daughter of my mother’s sister, the issue from yesterday, spiraled somehow and I had to diffuse a situation before someone got their feelings hurt for real.

My GOD how I hate Facebook. Actually, I hate Facebook users who think that every time someone makes a post it’s about them. One of those “If you smelt(smelled) it you dealt it type rules.

After my conversations with my aunt my status was this:

*I tell you about grown folks. Look here…

I’m at a point in my life where I will not be held responsible for someone’s hurt feeling due to their pettiness and expectations. I USE to be the person that tried to please everyone and do what others thought I should do just to keep the peace, but when I realized that got me absolutely nothing and nowhere, I stopped.
Lick your own damn wounds.
Got issue with it, talk to me.
I’m over here doing me*

After which, I called my mother, typed out that last blog and got myself over it. I spoke with the kids father and (doing exactly as I wished not to do) kept the peace and got two more tickets from him so that my uncle and aunt could attend the graduation. Called my aunt and told her I’d bring them to her house.

So at some point, my cousin saw this and called her mother saying she’s always starting something. When I got to my aunt’s house, she was trying to tell me what was going on. It’s funny. Picture this. A busybody, who talks so much and get side tracked from her original point with other points and falls all the way to the left, while trying to remember facts and details that are difficult only to come back to the original point and when you ask a pertinent question do they get to the point. This is like every conversation with her. Okay, cousin fussed at her mother. Aunt was trying to explain what was going on. I ask, “What made her say that in the first place?” THEN and only then did she say “Facebook.”

Turns out, that my aunt had been rallying people to contact my cousin’s daughter because she was sad about not being able to walk the stage and she wanted the family to show support for her. Now with my weekends and the way I’ve been going around, not to mention I didn’t even know WHEN her graduation was, she was on my mind. I thought she graduated last week, but turns out it was this past Sunday. My phone is cut off, I don’t know anyone’s number by heart and fuck, I was TIRED. So my aunt in her infinite confusion thought she was helping out and then was fretting because she didn’t want to start any trouble.

I get home and get son’s phone to check my Facebook and then I see this message from my cousin and the following conversation ensued:

Cousin:
I wasn’t going to go off on you for that msg if it was directed at me but next time check the source before you start talking. I didn’t ask or mention you to my mother she asked me had you called and I told her no. I honestly could care less it wasn’t that big of a deal so all of that what you said on Facebook was necessary I’m mature enough to not start running my mouth on Facebook every time I think somebody said something and don’t even know the facts. Its cool though, do ur thing, some people use Facebook as an outlet all of the time when its not needed. Peace

Me:
First of all I don’t do Facebook\internet drama. My post had nothing to do with you or your mother. I don’t even know what you are talking about is supposed to be a big deal. How about we start there. THEN you go off or not in a mature way.
Makes me wonder who said what about what. I don’t have any issue with anybody that I know of. So again how about you tell me what’s being or been said then we can straighten this out. Because I’m a bit confused.

Cousin:
That post seemed to be about me but i did try to contact you to clarify it. My mother asked me did u call and congratulate (daughter) and i said no bit wasnt trippin. Got a LOT on my mind. She started saying family should stick together and called u and said something. Before I sent you a message I called her and asked her did she call you and say something and when she said yes I said why because that post seemed as though it was insinuating something to me. If I was wrong I apologize but it just seems all too coincidental. Me or (daughter) wasn’t tripping off of who didn’t call her, i didnt see the big deal either.

Me:
When she called me at work we didnt talk about (daughter). I didnt even know yall were on the news till i talked to my mom and didnt know when her graduation was. All i kept hearing was that it was on a Sunday. I thought it was last week. I did not forget about her and didnt forget her. My phone is broken. I can’t answer my phone. I cant see nothing on my phone and now its cut off for the moment. I have been split 10 ways trying to make sure i get (my son) across this stage, make sure my daughter is alright as well as my grandbaby. Its a lot of stuff going on and have to deal with their stupid daddy on top of it all. I love me some (daughter) and was hoping to see her at bowling on Saturday. I am very proud of her. Always proud of her and the young lady she has become.

Now that that is cleared (hopefully) how have you been?

Cousin:
I apologize . Was very confused and didnt understand. I know my mother is always trying to call somebody on somebody’s behalf who didn’t even ask. Its all good but ive been going through ALOT as you know and (daughter) didnt walk which has had me in the dumps. Shes doing better now but i only get high school graduation and for her to be stripped of that really hurt me and shes a good kid so its been tough. Shes doing better today. Just under a tremendous amount of stress. Tried to call u a few days ago just on GP. (My daughter) waitied on me at Walmart last week. Hope ur good.
Only 1 high school graduation is what i was trying to say.

Me:
This is my only one too so I understand. My phone rings and i can’t do nothing but look at the black screen and curse.
Im about to drink this wine and go to sleep.

I while that status was about her mother, it was not for what she thought it was. I felt like a champ and was feeling a bit smug after this interaction. Then it all came full circle again: THAT’S why I don’t deal with my family. They’ve had a thing of saying what they want to say to me and have been so use to me just cowering and standing down that they don’t get it and I’m called crazy when I get upset or angry. This type of shit is why I stay to myself. I’m good. I’m so cool on them.

And then I woke up with a headache. I should have just drank tequila and beer.

Take care of yourselves…
::smh::

Kindest regards,
Sister