Hmmmmm in Just in Case

I found out this evening that Tootie and Bubba’s father died today. As a human I feel the same remorse that I would for any other human that died. No…really I don’t. To be honest, I feel nothing for his death. (Ok, so maybe I do feel guilty for feeling that way, but it’s honestly how I feel.) He’s been out of their life for so long and he’s hurt them so much. He’s the first person I ever truly hated and it took me a long time to get past that. So I don’t feel sorrow at his passing. My focus is on the kids. I’m worried about how they will deal. I think Bubba will honestly be fine. He more or less dealt with his issues a while back. He just shut him out. Tootie may take it harder. It’s been a harder road for her. He chose not to be part of her life, even when he tried to establish a relationship with Bubba. He claimed that he wasn’t her father. (For the record - not even a possibility that he isn’t.) She and I talked just a couple of weeks ago about all of this and she was talking about feeling guilty for not wanting a relationship with him. That’s what worries me, not that she will miss the bastard that he was, but she’ll be hurt at the loss of a chance for him to change.
Added to the worry for them is anger. We think his mom might still be alive in a nursing home (but none of us know where), but according to Louisiana law, if you don’t leave a spouse, your adult children are responsible for your burial. Yeah. This bastard turned his back on his kids, ignored them for the majority of their life, never paid a penny in support was at the least emotionally abusive to them, and now they have to bury him???? That just floors me. They found a church cemetery where he can be buried for free, he will be buried in a body bag, and now they are trying to find someone who has a tractor to do the digging. They shouldn’t be having to do that, though.