Who really needs money? in Boredoms
- June 23, 2015, 9:46 a.m.
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Time once again for an update. Let’s see…for those of you familiar with my life, things between Roxy and I are pretty lukewarm. I’m not really sure she’s very into me anymore. But, about a week ago, I met Allison and she most definitely is. But Allison is more serious, she’s playing for keeps. I discussed the “I’m never going to want to have children” deal with her off the bat and, while she’s on the fence regarding children, it didn’t seem to deter her. Nor did many of my other less-popular traits. I like her a great deal but her intensity is a little scary. I don’t know if I could ever be married to someone…it’s a not a commitment issue so much as a multitude of different concerns. I could never afford an engagement and wedding rings, first off. I make dirt for money. I don’t like the notion of big, expensive weddings. I can’t put it very eloquently…I just think the industry is shit.
She’s a therapist, which is cool. I worry that her being a career person and me having my dead-end job that I like because of its flexibility so I can do acting stuff will eventually make me seem like a dead beat. I mean, guys without a solid, high-earning career can never really be appealing right? She may not mind it now but…down the road? Also, I don’t see me having enough to keep someone interested for years and years. It hasn’t happened so far, anyway. Some people would say a third option would just be to see who else is out there but I doubt I have the luxury of hoping there will be anybody else out there who’s interested so this may be my last chance.
Anyway.
I got headshots done on Saturday. It was free with a suggested donation of 20 bucks (which I paid, of course). I’m excited to get those. The same company that provided this opportunity also has a “general audition” coming up in July where various representatives from local theaters come and see who they might want to poach for their shows. I’m excited. They also have a “trial audition” the week before which gives people a chance to get feed back on their monologues. I’m looking forward to it. My friend Jackie is also directing a show in a one-act showcase I plan to audition for (I won’t be able to be in hers since it’s all women but there are others).
So July should be exciting.
damienne ⋅ June 22, 2015
guys without a solid, high-earning career can never really be appealing right
u do realize i date shaun right
ICanDoASumbersault damienne ⋅ June 23, 2015
I think we long ago established you're a magical unicorn that breaks all the rules.
damienne ICanDoASumbersault ⋅ June 23, 2015
But am I a nazi fighting unicorn????
ICanDoASumbersault damienne ⋅ June 23, 2015
Depends...have you fought any nazis?
damienne ICanDoASumbersault ⋅ June 23, 2015
I punched a bald guy once. He might have been a skinhead. Does that count?
ICanDoASumbersault damienne ⋅ June 24, 2015
I don't see why not.
Deleted user ⋅ June 23, 2015
I feel like I COMPLETELY get your first paragraph. So much. About the kids and the marriage. I am also one of those people who will NOTNOTNOT have kids, and it's not even up for discussion, really. And marriage is... IF it ever happens, it would be for those perks/benefits, like getting to see the other person in the hospital if they get sick, other unromantic stuff, blah blah, but it's all very practical and makes sense. Romance isn't only for weddings. PLUS. What you said about the COST of a wedding, an engagement ring, blah blah... That stuff really stresses me out just thinking about it, so no. NONONO. Not happening. I get you so hard right now.
I dunno about the intensity and all that, but do you like Allison? Do you think she's a really cool gal? Cooler than Roxy?
ICanDoASumbersault Deleted user ⋅ June 23, 2015
Hmm, it's hard to say. I think Roxy and I share more in common. But it's early still. I don't know. AGH!
Deleted user ⋅ June 23, 2015
Oh, and PFFFFF. You will never be a dead-beat. People who assign those sort of labels on others who don't have a SUPER high-earning, stable-ass, punk-ass job need to shove it up their a$$.
You're awesome.
ICanDoASumbersault Deleted user ⋅ June 23, 2015
I'd love if that notion was shoved very roughly up the asses of those who hold to it but such is not the way of our world.
Waiting For Sunrise ⋅ June 23, 2015
Really, I don't think it matters so much what your views on the importance of money and career may be, as opposed to whether they match your partner's... couples who argue about money are perhaps more likely to be those who assign it different levels of importance in life... there are plenty of couples out there who are broke-but-happy together
You don't say much about what you feel about Allison... do you feel anything about her? If the main attraction of her is that she's super into you and you think nobody else will ever be.... you don't need to date her, you just need to STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN! :p
ICanDoASumbersault Waiting For Sunrise ⋅ June 23, 2015
I hope that's not the case. She's attractive and funny and smart and I like that. We don't have as much in common, though. Ugh, I hope I'm not such a shitty person that her main attraction is liking me.
Waiting For Sunrise ICanDoASumbersault ⋅ June 23, 2015
Eeek, I'm so sorry! I definitely didn't want to imply you are a shitty person!!! :(
It's just flattering if someone seems to really like you, and it's easy to get more swept up in them than you would usually be, because of that...
Sorry again-- I really wasn't meaning to offend you!! x
ICanDoASumbersault Waiting For Sunrise ⋅ June 23, 2015
I know you didn't mean to but I didn't previously think of that option and it made me feel awful.
Miso Honey ⋅ June 29, 2015
You may be overthinking what she might want dowwn the road. That is a very traditional gender binary way yof thinking and that may not be her thing.
I have a friend who owns her own law firm and has been with a penniless actor for years. She is more concerned in him being happy in what he does, rather than making sure he earns more than her. There isn't a list written on a stone taablet that decrees thaht all women find the same things atttractive and unattractive.
ICanDoASumbersault Miso Honey ⋅ June 30, 2015
I know, I just can't get past feeling like everybody is going have the same definition imprinted on them. It seems like so few people really get out from under it.
Miso Honey ICanDoASumbersault ⋅ July 01, 2015
A lot of people do still feel that way, but give people a chance to prove themselves.
ICanDoASumbersault Miso Honey ⋅ July 01, 2015
I do give people a chance. It's not as though I instantly wall people out by assuming they'll be a certain way, I just prepare myself for the likelihood they will be like that.