The Ties That Bind in meh...

Family.
Mine sucks.
They are all cool with each other and I’m the one that’s ostracized. I am also the one that pushes them away.

I have other relatives I’m cool with, but I don’t talk to them that much. I want to be closer to my family, but when I play catch up with them, they seem to always have some overwhelming drama that I don’t want to be a part of. I have to step back.

I tend to start counselling because they seem so screwed up. I’m not perfect but my life is boring compared to those of my family members.

I try to live as simply as I can. I don’t try to acquire material things because that has never mattered to me. When I get gifts, I like useful things that I KNOW I will use. I don’t like stuff for show, just to say I have this and that. My decor style rivals a 21 year old male dorm room. I just have stuff.

Anyway…

After talking to one of my cousins on Sunday I realize that even though I want to be close to my family, I’m kind of okay not being near them.

Drama one: Everyone knew why my one cousin asked his wife for a divorce. Because he has made plans to be with the chick that gave him two babies. None of them would tell his wife. I’m closer to the wife than I will ever be to my cousin because he is low down, dirty, and wrong for what he’s doing. I don’t like dirty people. He is trying to convince her that it’s because of her insecurity when it’s because he is lousy. And the kids mother? Has already bought him a truck to drive while wifey is paying insurance on FOUR vehicles, of which only ONE is hers.

Drama two: That cousin’s sister is engaged to be married. She is not the most organized. She and my full blooded brother are more like brother and sister than he and I are. I feel that she likes to flaunt their relationship in my face, and sometimes it hurts, but other times, not so much. Anyway, I’ve heard nothing received nothing about their pending nuptuals. I recently found out that HE is still married. He’s going to court soon for the divorce, but it won’t be uncontested. She’s got three kids with him. He’s been living with my cousin, they haven’t been engaged that long, the whole situation is unorganized. My cousin has an issue with his kids being with them since her only daughter is 17. She doesn’t “want to start over”. I told her that if this is who she chose, who she wants, she needs to get her head together on that situation.
Why is it that women expect men to accept their kids as part of a package deal, but women can’t accept a mans children? But that’s one of those unpopular opinions I’m so good for having.

If my husband told me he wanted a divorce and everyone knew why and didn’t tell me, then I’d be angry with them, I wouldn’t be pining over him regardless of how long we’d been together and really don’t give a shit if he told me I was being childish for putting him out. If he wants a divorce then lets do it. What are YOU waiting for? He hasn’t signed the papers himself. I keep telling her to consult with someone to find out her options.

On the other cousin’s front, I would prefer if he had led with the information that he was still married. If his wife is hot and talking about taking him for everything he has and the kids, they should have been together a hell of a lot longer before a proposal was ever brought to the table.

Soap opera shit. I prefer my drama on tv and not in my life. I’m not bored enough to want this type of mess. I have my own shit, but for the most part I don’t do anything.

I needed to get this trash out of my life.
Not that you wanted it in yours…

Respectfully yours,
Sister…