Winding down a very busy weekend in Day to day life from a woman that turned 60 in Oct 2014 and who lives on a farm and Retired on January 2, 2016. I plan to do more sewing, work outside in the yard and just enjoy my retirement.

Sitting in my recliner and was browsing FB. Will paste what my SIL who hosted hub’s side get together/bday party for hub’s mentally handicapped sister who she along with his brother are now taking care of since both parents have passed.
Friday AM by 8:30 the roll-off dumpster was delivered. 30 yds and we tried hard to fill it up but didn’t make it. lol It is okay as you pay for the dumpster and then you pay per ton. I suspect it will end costing between $225-$250 but I’m only guessing. I will say that the cost is worth it. The shop looks GREAT!! So much stuff trashed and I even took a few things (ok several things) out of this house and threw in the dumpster. I had saved boxes for this event but didn’t need them. Dude was very easy going on my stuff like pictures and various other things that were my grandmothers. No stand-off needed nor even thought about. He arrived with a friend of his around 9:30 and owen and I had gone down earlier and started toward the front and that table. Put the stuff I wanted to bring to the house in a wagon along with stuff we came across throughout the day and it is now in my garage. He came back down alone this morning and we finished up the back corner and it is remarkable how much room there is in there now. The 2 4-wheelers and my tractor mower will be kept in there unless they are being used but there is now room for a car or truck to be pulled into the garage fr any type of work he needs to do. Yay!! We were both very pleased with the results and now you don’t have to pick your way through there. He will take scarp metal to the recycle place and that will make even more room. My body was so tired last night and I took a couple of Aleve to ease the aches and pains. Took more this morning to start the day too. lol

Today after we finished up in the shop he left and I came in to get ready for the b’day party in town. Hub’s brother and his wife live about 2hrs from here, yet they (mostly she) does all the work and uses the handicapped sister’s b’day as a reason to get together. During te cleaning there were 4 boxes of that side’s family pictures and various other papers in the garage. I had told each of them for years that they could come down and go through them anytime, but that had never happened. Sooooooooo today I told Dude I should take all those boxes up to the party and they could go through them and keep what they wanted and trash the stuff they didn’t. About an hour or so after everyone got there and everyone had eaten the looking began. I had the boxes on separate tables so that a group could be at each box. Apparently (I missed it) there were hurt feelings made and a confrontation.

Now, let me clarify. That is normal when this group gets together. Always has and apparently always will. There were 11 kids in all. All by the same mom and dad. Hub’s older sister is 1 yr younger than I am. The youngest is about 30 I think. I know my MIL had more kids after hubs and I got married than we did. Matter of fact she was pregnant with the BIL that mows the trailer yard each summer. We got married the 1st of Jun and she had him in October. We didn’t know it until she had him.

So I was looking at FB and the SIL who hosted the gathering posted this: “All the time, money and 2 hour drive time each way put into xxxxx’s party vs. the happiness this day brought her was priceless!!! Sadly as usual when my in laws get together, there is always a disagreement. I’m sorry, I don’t know the whole story nor do I want to know, I do know that I may not always agree with things that are said and done, but I have enough respect for others that I don’t make an issue of it, I walk away. I just hoped for once we could all get together and have a conflict free day. These get togethers wouldn’t happen if I didn’t plan them, and from now on we won’t be the ones driving 2 hours each way for family get togethers, everyone else will have to make the drive to see xxxxx.”

It is so normal for them to do this when they all get together and that is the saddest part of all. My husband Fred used to try and keep things from getting out of control and we used to host his families get togethers here. There was always one of the brothers who got in a snit and mouthy and words would be exchanged. There is always a trouble maker it seems and that family has its fair share. Since I didn’t know there had been words exchanged I was oblivious to any discord until most everyone was gone. I hate it for the family and I especially hate it for my BIL and SIL who done all the planning, got the place reserved to hold this thing, bought the food, etc and then have a this happen. Comments are beginning to be left from those who has FB accounts but I don’t intend to leave one. I will call SIL or message her and she knows I appreciate all their hard work to make this happen. I also slipped some money in her pocket to help with the expenses. It won’t cover them but hopefully it was better than nothing.

Bottom line: The shop is purged and inviting!!

Take care and God Bless

Last updated May 03, 2015