Children of same-sex parents. in Vulnerability

I’m not gonna wrote too long, because this still upsets me, somehow, even after well over a decade etc etc.

My Aunty shared this article on Facebook…
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2015/02/14370/

Of course, being a family member, the comments are from fellow family members and they are all (but one, from my cousin, who actually has a brain haha) in agreeance with the writer of this blog.

You know what? I have the technology available to share it, so here we go…

I mean, I already know my dad’s view is never going to change, and whoever wrote this blog (I don’t believe it was written by a child of same-sex parents at ALL, personally, but rather some religious bigot trying to get a backwards point-across!) clearly has issues. Whether they are genuine or not, I do not know. Anyone can wrote anything and be whoever they make out to be on the internet, so let’s just go with that it’s a legit article, written by a child of a same-sex couple.

This child has obviously witnessed her mother (now having custody) divorce her father, and misses her dad. Naturally! You would, wouldn’t you? She’d feel angst toward what happened in the past and when a new person comes along (especially another female!), that’d disrupt the hetero-norm of society, right? Of course she’s gonna lash out. But to write that she doesn’t agree in same-sex marriage for the sake of how the children would be raised?

Ergh. This really is an age-old argument. What I don’t understand is WHY society is SO FUCKING NEGATIVE ALL THE TIME! I mean, sure, my dad has a 3000 year old completely factual book about talking snakes and parting oceans and turning water into wine and slaying giants to back up his completely independently thought out views (okay, okay, I’ll behave, maybe) :P

What I prefer to focus on is the happiness of both parties, child and parent, no matter who the fuck they might be. If a same-sex couple want a child, they should be able to do so, and many damn well do. It can be done through adoption, or through surrogacy, but that’s a whole other ball-park right now.
I won’t even get into the subject of child abuse either, because we all damn-well know that happens in too many households also.

Yes, I was raised with a mother and a father. I was one of the ‘lucky’ ones, and I wasn’t a victim of child abuse (other than when my older brother dropped me on my head as a baby, and my younger brother used to throw steak-knives at me during our fights haha). I invert the word ‘lucky’ because I feel that if I had ANYONE raising me the best way they knew how to, then I would have still had an incredible childhood.
The only thing I absolutely despise about my childhood is that I was raised deeply religious (think church every Sunday, Sunday-school, bible-camps once a year and bible-study every week). But I look into something even as shit as I think of that now, and try to see the positive. If I wasn’t raised as religious as I was, would I have the attitude and the outlook on life that I do have today?

I see the positive in everything in life, in the people I meet and the things I can do, but even I can’t be positive all the time. We’ve all seen that in the sometimes depressive entries I write, trying to figure out where that has come from. But I’m going off topic, and I just want to say that personally (and I know not everyone will agree, and that’s fine, we’re all entitled to our opinion, including my dad, ergh lol) I think that a child can be raised in ANY loving family, whether by two parents of separate genders, same genders or a single parent of either gender.
Some kids don’t have the luxury of either parent being there, and that’s what makes me sad. But I do like to think that that child can still be loved by two people who want to love a child as their own.
I only know of one experience, as I wrote in my note in the Facebook post above. He loves his non-biological parents so much.

I can’t help but feel the writer of this article has some sort of issue with their mother’s new partner. It just seems like an underlying tone to me. To say you love your mother and her partner but not agreeing with her wanting to marry and cement that relationship like any other human being?

Ergh, once again, too much religion getting involved in love. Drives me to fucking tears.

Once again, today, I was wondering if I should just delete every bigoted family member from my Facebook. It’s been 13 years since I came out, and it’s clear through their views that they have an issue with me, even though they’d never have the balls to say it to my face. Even through a ‘like’ on one of the backwards comments, you know? I can’t help but feel like it’s a slap in the face, and thirteen years of this bullshit it just too much. Maybe it would just be easier to avoid seeing any of this shit and delete everyone just like my dad did me. The only reason I saw this is because it’s through my Aunty’s post. I find my other Aunty’s post of “Interesting.” amusing because it leaves her not siding with either side. But not my father. He’ll stick to his views and make them known, much like I will, not having to sit back and watch that crap take place across my screen.

To block or not to block? I’ve been wanting to live in a world of progression for as long as I can remember, and people like this make me want to hear my hair out!

Then my mum writes this…

She’s come a long way. It’s such a contrast to the direction my dad’s taken.
And yes, they still live together, are married and love each other.
I’m just awaiting another stupid reply from my dad on this post, because, let’s face it, it’s bound to happen. He’s probably arguing with mum over her views right now, knowing him like I do.

Last updated February 03, 2015