Marginally Better in Still Listening to Spirit
- Nov. 30, 2014, 5:52 a.m.
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I keep letting the pain get ahead of me and then when I take the pain pills, the first dose doesn’t work very well and the pain lasts longer. I just am afraid of getting dependent on the suckers. I am having almost no pain in the day time and it starts around 8pm or after.
Yesterday daughter called. Thanksgiving day our long distance lines in were busy and she couldn’t get through. So yesterday she called and cried into the phone at me for an hour the first time and half an hour the next call. The call today was again over an hour.
There is nothing I can do but hang on and listen to her angst and fear and troubles. It has to do with something I can’t remember if I wrote here or not. Too long a story to do now. I am still tired easily but can’t sleep more than 2 or 3 hours at a time. It is awful to go to sleep at 4am and wake up at 6am. Ah well, this is the time of year to do that.
Nita also called. She needed to talk to her ex and wanted me to help get her thoughts in order so she could tell him what is troubling her. Basically, whenever they’re at a function they are both invited to–usually including daughter, grandkids and son-in-law–he hangs around her when he sees any male talking to her.
He used to do that when they were married, and it aggravated her then as much as it is bothering her now. So We discussed how she could say what she needed to say without causing him to be defensive and stir up a fight.
Well, she called me back after she talked to him and she was stunned almost speechless. He told her she was fabricating the whole thing and that she really needs to seek professional help. I burst out laughing when she told me because I ‘know’ him well enough through her stories there was no way he would take this as anything but an attack.
Both Nita and her daughter suspect early onset Alzheimer’s because hs is often angry, doesn’t remember things he does or says. Anyway, we had a good long talk altogether about an hour and a half. I amso blessed tohave her in my life. Typos, don’t want to correct them…
Weather has finally turned cold, single digits but still no snow. Anchorage finally has some measurable snow. None of the ski areas up til now have opened because of no snow and not cold enough to sustain manmade snow.
Okay, I’m done for now. Just doing an update to keep track of things. Blessed be!
noko ⋅ November 30, 2014
In the midst of all your challenges you get a gold star for being the best listener ever.
We just turned cold yesterday and we are very cold for us. It must be so weird not to have snow, just adding to the whole strangeness of your year.
MageB ⋅ November 30, 2014
So very glad you are feeling better tho prone not to take your meds. I understand. I leaned over a chair yesterday and broke a rib....silly me. You just take care of you. You are most important.
Daisy Mae ⋅ November 30, 2014
Keep taking the meds as you are supposed to! I'm bossing you...
I know it is of concern that they are addictive, but you need to get better. Then you can wean yourself off them.
Spilledperfume ⋅ November 30, 2014
I understand the frustration of wanting to sleep and only sleeping from 4am to 6am. It makes me want to cry not being able to sleep.
I agree with your other noter, take the pain meds as directed while you need them.
Is this the time of year where it stays light out in Alaska for most of the day?
Be well.
seedys Spilledperfume ⋅ November 30, 2014
Nope, this is the timeof year that anything north of 60 degrees latitude aare dark 24 hours a day. We have about 4 hours of daylight here.
Hillbilly Princess ⋅ November 30, 2014
I have a client who has Alzheimer’ and he is angry a lot of the time. Today I made him mad and he was telling me it wasn't like it use to be when you could just kill people in the 30's and 40's. You just can't do that now. It was a long day with him. lol
Hope your daughter is ok.
Deleted user ⋅ December 01, 2014
Oh dear me. You have a lot on your shoulders yourself and ... well, you are a good Mum. I'm sitting here gently sweating, hoping we won't really have 36 deg C tomorrow.
noko ⋅ December 01, 2014
I heard this interview with a brain scientist yesterday who has been doing brain scans on very disturbed murderers for other studies and at one point his mother called him up and said, umm, you don't know this but you are related to Lizzie Borden... So he scanned his own brain and it turns out he has all the markers of a psychopath. So he started asking his loving family how they perceived him and they told him that he was cold and calculating. He literally did not know. It turns out that trauma at a young age turns on some or all of those genes. The scientist didn't have that but still has some residual characteristics. He says now he knows, he tries, but it doesn't make him naturally care.The ex might be like that and just plain not know. The brain is amazing.
noko ⋅ December 01, 2014
Sorry for the above long note. I just find it fascinating that there are folks out there that literally do not know they are being jerks. It seems incomprehensible. You are such a good friend to listen in spite of your difficulties.
ODSago ⋅ December 02, 2014
The calls sound tiring, but with our children...we want to be on the phone if we can't be with them, I know. And as you know, it's sometimes even then okay to say I care so much about XYZ but right now I'm simply too tired to listen. I have done that, but not often. Once I did tell our son that he tells me the same story, relating the same problems and I have told him how I feel and he disagrees so...let's not talk about it. It worked but I felt lousy. Powerful but...rotten. Do you still have pain this week?