Day 37 - RAD: Mexican Smoothie in These Foolish Things

Name: Mexican Smoothie

Introduction Platform: Bumble

Age: 54

Relationship Status: Not sure? Assuming divorced? Has at least one kid who is in high school, but we didn’t get into relationship talk.

Job: Immigration Attorney

Lives: South Side of Town

Length of Date: 1.5 hours

We Did: Met for coffee drinks and convo at a cool coffeehouse of his suggestion (apparently, close to his office). Sat outside. Talked. I named him Mexican Smoothie (for this entry, not to his face, ha!) because he’s from Mexico and he ordered a smoothie! I had a hot chai tea.

He Looked: His face is super handsome, and he’s tall and dark. Nice. But his body language is strangely insecure. His posture was odd. He wore pleated khakis unironically.

I Looked: It was unseasonably warm. I wore a sundress topped with a vintage denim jacket. I was uncomfortable with my look. My hair is getting too long and shaggy, but I don’t know what to do with it. I felt off.

Convo: We had a little bit of family conversation around his birth in Mexico and how he ended up here, eventually becoming an attorney specializing in immigration. He told me some really interesting facts about things that were happening with illegal immigrants in the last ten years that made me think about bureaucracy and how our borders and enforcement are really a mess. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not changing a political stance! And I know that Mexican Smoothie is a liberal - we didn’t go into politics like that. Let’s just say the man is working overtime right now. We talked about other things - pickleball vs. tennis, mormonism (of all things!), art. He plays soccer on the weekends and he was wondering out loud to me if anyone will show up for the next games since a lot of the guys who play in his league are undocumented. He said ICE would have a heyday and could potentially scoop up the whole lot! He’s super soft spoken and serious, but we shared a couple of laughs out loud. It was a good convo.

High Point: The fact that I have been introduced to a cool new coffee place. I loved sitting outside in the warm breeze.

Low Point: It must be me…this guy didn’t order me a drink either (see this entry for context and discussion around buying my own drink on a coffee date)! I actually got to the place before he did and WAITED for him to show. This guy shows up, doesn’t look for me, orders himself a smoothie, and then finally finds me sitting outside (I’d messaged him that I was already there and sitting outside). So, he asks me if I’ve ordered something, and I said no, so he’s like, oh, let’s go inside and get you something… and then leaves me hanging to order my own drink! It’s weird, y’all. WHY wouldn’t the guy look for me so we could order our drinks together? Am I in the wrong here? Why is this such a sticking spot with me?

How It Ended: He said he had to go back to work! It was after 8pm. Life as an immigration attorney right now is obviously very, very busy! We walked together outside. I waited for him to open the door to exit the place, and that was super awkward because he fumbled with the door and I ended up having to open it myself. Super awkward hug goodbye. All-in-all, a nice guy, but none of the pizazz I was hoping for. You can’t judge a book by its profile photos. I expected something quite different personality-wise. The “smoothie” part was merely his drink!

Chances Are: I didn’t get a good vibe. HOWEVER, if he asked me to play pickleball, I would go because I want the practice!

Date Rating: C