I quit,children autonomy is important in Life of a cat mom

There is a 3 year old who was sexually molested name Amber she refused to have anyone change her beside Miss Jasmine because she is traumatized. Another child saw Amber refused her diaper be changed so Jacob refused. I told him ok. When I explained to Miss Jasmine if Amber can refuse her diaper to be changed autistic Jacob has the right to refuse. Miss Jasmine screamed at me I had to force children’s diapers to be changed. I will not force a child to have their diaper changed. His diaper was dry. I changed him before I left. I quit because I refuse to force a child to do anything. Am I the asshole? If there is an exception for the female child there is exceptions for the male. I might be doing job applications tonight but I don’t force anyone to do anything they done want to to. Miss Jasmine is just angry she had to do it. * Names have been changed for privacy