Attempt to journal #3....more successful? in Attempting to journal

Well it has been a whirl wind last couple of days. My oldest (22yrs) came home Sunday for a visit because she had been struggling with depression because she couldn’t find a job where she was. Because she couldn’t find a job, she had been evicted from her place the day before. Well Monday she went to a walk in clinic and found out she is pregnant. So now she is homeless, jobless and a single mother. I’m not dissapointed in her, I’m proud of how much she has had to overcome and I understand how this happens, I was pregnant at 18 while homeless. I’m just so sad she has to walk this, I never wanted that for her. Tuesday she makes some calls to inform the people that need to know. The baby’s father and her are not together but he wants to support her however he can and seems to be doing that so far. The one person she called was her grandmother. I don’t k ow what’s wrong with her but she has gone off the deep end! She claimed that this young man is a danger and exactly like one of the men that molested my daughter because both men have had premarital sex. My daughter tells her that’s not the case and she just says that she didn’t realise how bad he was until later too. This was upsetting but my daughter handled it well. Then today her grandmother took it upon herself to call the young mans potential employer that he is hoping to get hired with ( working with youth so she figures this is a concern), and tell them of the situation claiming he had no intention of helping her. She told this to my sister who asked her why she felt it was her place to call, did she think he was hiding it? Did she give him a chance to handle this himself and find out he wouldn’t? ( obviously this question was to point out the folly in her reasoning since he didn’t really need to inform them as he didn’t do anything wrong, plus the young man only found out on Monday! So hadn’t had time anyway). She said no to all questions, just that she felt they needed to know. So my sister informed me so I could let me daughter know and support her anyway she needs in handling the situation. I told her and she promptly informed the young man so he can do damage control for the lies she told and she called her and yelled at her. She didn’t start out yelling, she began by asking who exactly she spoke to and can she have the number she called. Her grandmother refused to tell her, defended her actions and they ended up screaming at each other. My daughter made some good points, telling her that she obviously hadn’t been listening because she told the potential employer he wasn’t helping when he is, and other things that aren’t true and the only way she could have gotten that idea was if she wasn’t really listening. When her grandma said she did it because she was looking out for her and such my daughter said that if she was truly doing it for that reason she could have called her first, could have clarified that she had her info correct before calling if she still felt she needed to do that, that she could have found the number for the young man and called him to try and help etc. The only reason she called is because she knows people at this potential employer and is embarrassed and wanting to ” get ahead” of the situation as she has done before in my life. My daughter is now not speaking to her, and her grandmother is playing the victim. I haven’t spoken to her because I don’t think I can do it without being so angry I say something I regret and she honestly hasn’t tried to call me. I’m angry because claiming a young man who has had premarital sex is the same as the pedophile who molested my daughter is ludicrous and I can even find the logic to go from point A to point B and it minimizes what the pedophile did! It’s just not realistic! What they had was consensual and in no way abusive or anything. Then to further step in, based on that illogical assumption, and potentially put his ability to move closer to her ( which is one thing this job could allow him to do) and his ability to support his child in jeopardy is just....I can’t even put it into words. I’m seriously concerned for her grandmother’s mental health. This is not what a mentally healthy person does. After that call my daughter and I went to walk around a store just to help her calm down and not obsess about it. It took 2 hours but she calmed down a bit and everyone is now in bed. Things had better start going up from here right?! 🫣