Questions 29 and 30 in 100 questions about me

1. Write about a way in which you are very different from a parent.

I think the parent I differ from the greatest is my mother. She is very worried about fitting in, about being accepted,, about how others view her or have opinions of her. One thing I can recall her saying ( probably because she still repeated it even after the black years) is ” when you go out, you are an extention or representation of me”. Then she would go on to make whatever point about what we needed to fix like ” if you go out looking like a slob, people will think you are a slob and that I have raised a slob! Then they’ll think I’m a slob! Go fix your hair!” We never wore stained play clothes unless we were in a situation where it was expected or not seen. She put my oldest sister on weight watchers at 12 because someone in the stands at a sport event referred to her as a butterball for having muscular thighs. She is what I call a chameleon because she makes herself into whatever her current spouse wants. I think she was most herself with my father, but her second husband was into horses and cowboy stuff so suddenly she was, her third husband was into motorcycles so suddenly she was. She has never not been on a diet and criticized our weights forcing/ encouraging dieting and health food as long as I can remember. I do not do this. I encourage my kids to be 100% themselves. Don’t act like me, don’t take my opinions as your own blindly, wear what you want within reason of weather or safety etc. I don’t diet at all, period. I even make a point to buy the forbidden foods like cookies and chips so my kids don’t have forbidden foods they eat like they’ll never see again, like I used to. So I think that’s probably the most stark difference from me and a parent.

1. Discuss one of the most important qualities you think people should look for in a romantic partner.

The #1 most important quality in a partner is twofold: honesty to a fault coupled with a genuine relationship with God. I will never date again but if I did he would have to have a true relationship ship with God and be honest so I could trust him. I don’t trust anyone but God so if he is following God and truthful about it I could trust him. I know this won’t happen though because the fatal flaw in this is that I would have to first trust that he is honest about a) being honest and b) him trusting God to lead him. There are way to many ways someone could use that belief to manipulate and lie to me. This is why I will never date again, because good men live with Santa clause and the tooth fairy and not where I’d find one and if I did they’d never be able to meet that standard.