The Pain of Losing What Could Not Come to Pass in Brief Thoughts

Anyone else have that moment where you realize that some fundamental aspect that makes you you also makes it so you will never find love (again)? How did you deal with it? It’s sometimes an odd thing. For me, the very parts of me that make me more myself and give me a charisma that attracts people to wanting to be around me as a friend, source of entertainment, etc., are also the same things that keep me alone. Anyone else have that experience?