Rather Crude Perhaps in The Secret Writings of Eros: Book 4: New Beginnings?

I find myself somewhat stuck as a “narrator.” Because I do believe it is important to the telling of this story to share specific information; but doing so also feels crude. So, forgive me my bluntness or crassness in this writing.

Hermia and I had another overnight. The date started, actually, with a very important heart to heart because we are different people which means there are some things which are different in how we do life. She is of the opinion that “I just like people. I like people until I have a reason not to like them. And it had better be a good reason if I’m not going to like them.” Her best friend is of the opinion, “I don’t need a reason not to like someone, I can not like someone if I get a bad vibe or just because I can.” Me? I’m… more neutral than you might expect considering my job. My job would suggest I START with “I don’t like this person” and they have to work really hard to change that opinion. But that is a terrible place to live your life. So, I start with “I do not like this person, I do not dislike this person. Our interactions will influence my opinion.” And ultimately… Hermia was in a bad way dealing with that perspective because it meant, to her, that I didn’t like her son. I don’t really know her son. I’ve spent some time with him but other than “Tell me how to play this video game, I’m not listening but I’ll call you down to have this same conversation 19 more times today” and “I have questions about Comic Book Characters that if you don’t answer immediately, I’ll get mad” I don’t have a lot of contact with him other than that right now. So, we needed that heart to heart to really kind of square her away. Because her perspective, “You don’t like him and that’s very upsetting to me” versus my perspective, “I’ve spent almost zero productive time with him and have not formed an opinion but I do have some concerns” needed to find some middle ground.
Then we went to Pride and had a good time; and were very glad that our partner is now the type to say “I’m done” after a reasonable amount of time, lol. Then back to my place for music and dogs and cuddling. And… it did lead to sex. That’s… that’s actually cool and kind of funny to me. When I was the FWB to a hypersexual poly woman… maybe we’d have sex once a month. Now that I’m in a romantic and sexual relationship with my girlfriend… we have sex like… once a week. It is more sex than I am used to having in a year and is already the most sex I’ve had with the same partner in quite sometime. Granted, that metric is.. flawed… because cumulatively yes… me and my ex-wife had sex in our entire relationship more than Hermia and I have had but… comparing an almost entirely sexless relationship of 15 years to this relationship of 9 weeks.... the 15 years should have more… and, personally, shouldn’t be as “close” as it is! If Hermia and I keep up this frequency, the honest and no hyperbole truth is… if we keep up this frequency… this relationship will have had more sex period than my entire marriage… by the end of the year. And yes, it’s just sex but… that says a lot to me right there. The fact that… by that same token… if our frequency remains for an entire year (and it might not, I’m okay either way) than my entire 15 year relationship will have had the same amount of sex as my 1 year long relationship. Yeesh!

But ultimately, what I felt was important to the narrative to share is… I did finish. Finally. And it wasn’t “because we spent hours doing it” it was just… something about the everything came together and… I was able to finish. For the first time with someone who was not my wife, I orgasmed during sex.
I had pretty amazing and explorative sex with Victoria… nope.
I had honestly some of the best sex of my entire life absolutely with Essen… nope.
I’ve had sex with Hermia now at least six times (if not more)… and finally!

I do think the timing of it all is interesting. Victoria was the first woman I had any sex with after the marriage ended. Our first time together was August 26, 2020. I orgasm during sex for the first time after the marriage ended… August 26, 2023.