The Uncomfortable, in Journal

no-good, hated, derided, and name-called truth about parenting; your kids’ actions are your fault.
Yes, parents, your child’s actions, decisions, behaviors, choices, are all your fault. I’m open to being convinced otherwise. But first, avail thyself of the evidence for this argument before you try.
Every aspect of a baby’s existence is under the parents’ control. Ie, every aspect of a baby’s existence is the parents’ responsibility. Even the identity of the other parent is the responsibility of the parent. lol. Who the mother of your child is, is your responsibility. Who the father of your child is, is your responsibility. Who did you choose to raise a child with? Who did you choose to be? How did you prepare yourself to attract the highest quality mate possible?
When our children grow into toddlerhood, they are sponges that fill up with the environmental behavior to slowly but surely embody the actions words and attitudes around them. What and who is in the toddler’s environment is, as before, completely and totally under the parents’ control.
As the child nears the age of reason, around 7, when child psychologists and schoolteachers alike agree that decisions about future events can be made, the decision making process is again a mere reflection of what is observed in that child’s environment. Which is, you guessed it, completely and totally under parental control.
What are children responsible for?
When can they be responsible?

My educated opinion is, it depends.
If the child has been nurtured into owning his own agency, then the parents are responsible for that. If the child has been punished out of owning his meaningful decisions, then the parents are responsible.
The parents never fail to be responsible. But one route allows the child to become an adult when he reaches physical adulthood, ie, he is able to become responsible. And one route sabotages the child’s ability to become an adult when he reaches physical maturity, ie, he must now face the imminent challenge of life as an independent individual with zero concept of agency, a tremendous burden of psychological and moral injuries, and the nearly impossible to resist socio-economic pressure to praise his childhood torturers (parents) and accept as virtue that which did him the most harm.
If you are not yet a parent, this is easy to see and to accept.
If you already a parent, this is nearly impossible to comprehend.