IQ in Journal

Is a pretty contentious topic. I mean. It’s contentious because a) average people cannot conceptualize the experience of the high IQ 2) the Kruger-Dunning effect d) High IQ people are not just a little bit more productive than average, they are the reason Price’s Law exists- eg, the square root of any population produces fully half the value and finally) because average people cannot conceive the reason for the disparity and IQ is not evident like say, being tall is evident, average people will tend to blame the perceived disparity on exploitation.
Plus. IQ is at least 80% genetic. So it kind of sucks if you’re average, because there is nothing you can do about your IQ. Realizing that, though, is to realize that there is nothing a high-IQ can do about their IQ. So it’s immoral to discriminate on that basis.

Still. I find myself aghast at the unqualified leadership and lack of reflection in the, dare I say?, “average” population.
Also, dare I say?, women in general.
I went to MOPS today. Can you tell? lol. I listened to the “lesson” with growing confusion and apprehension. The lesson was about friendship.
First, the leader asked, “What are your nonnegotiable in friendship?” I sort of frowned at this question, because there are 2 ways to answer. One is, we can compare the standard (the objective definition of friendship) to our behavior and identify where we fail the standard. Or. We can examine the subjective experience of our friendships and identify the subjective degree of compromise we’re personally willing to engage in. Both are getting at the same thing, but one is rather a simple grade-school repeat the definition answer. And one is insanity.
Of course, my answer to the question is “reciprocity”. The definition of friendship.
Then, the leader lectured about the content of what the lesson was meant to teach. “We want to have a friend just like ourselves in our parenting styles, our values, our beliefs! And after years of never finding that one person, we realize that we do have that friend- just in many different people.” Uh.... okay.... “It doesn’t matter if one of these things doesn’t agree- the values, or the parenting style, or the beliefs- we can still find common ground in one of these things.” Um. No. Sorry. You can’t make up a fairy tale world in which values don’t dictate your parenting style and in which your beliefs don’t agree with your values. I have no idea why this is not completely obvious?
AND the last thing that was talked about- “do your choices about friendship affect your children’s choices about friendship?” Yes. I mean, if that isn’t completely obvious either, I just don’t know what to say. But she then goes on to rely a personal story or frustration or whatever, about her own kid. “He went to school and told us that he was going to be best friends with this one kid. Well, 2 weeks in he comes home and says ‘this friend really isn’t the best friend’ and told us about some incidences at lunch and recess where he wasn’t being nice. I want to let him make his own decisions, but I said ‘yeah, you probably should just hang around him less often’. But you know it’s so difficult because we try to teach them Be Friends with Everyone! and then you have these bully-kids at school who are just anti-social. You have the teachers telling them to just leave the bully-kids alone. ‘Don’t play with him. Don’t be friends with him. Ostracism is the only way to teach a bully not to bully anymore.’ But the kids just feel bad for the bully being sad and lonely and invite him to play, and then they get hit or spit on.”
I’m sitting there listening to this, incredulous. I look around at the other women and they’re just… not jumping up saying “yes, of course!” but they’re just passively accepting whatever the leader is spewing. No one seems to be bothered by the blatant hypocrisy. No one batted an eye at the polar opposites being presented as the same thing. And I’m sitting here, wondering what in the Hell is happening? What is going on?
I don’t know if the value here is to be non-argumentative, or to be agreeable, or to simply not think. I have a feeling that the real value here is to not-think. But if you do think, then at least don’t be argumentative. Don’t point out that the leader is totally incompetent to relay a simple, concise and consistent message. Just, don’t. Just nod and smile. Don’t be rude.

God, I don’t know if I can stand it. I really like that these women are open and willing to donate time and resources to their community, but this is just… propaganda is the only term that seems applicable.
Having mom friends seems like a great thing. But I’m not sure I can have mom friends. It seems unattainable in this environment.