First Date in Torridaussity Two

So the title is obvious I ended up having my first date with Don last night kinda last minute. Let me back up a bit. Don was the 43 year old I mentioned in the last entry who I met on ok cupid who also had a heart attack which is why our first chat date never happened. He says his heart is fine no damage or blockages. He lives about 3 hours away, but his son lives with his ex wife in a small city about 30 minutes from me and he grew up and hung out where I live.
Anyway he was up here for his weekend with his son last weekend and that's when he had the heart attack. We started exchanging texts that weekend and have been texting since. Well yesterday he made a comment about sneaking up to surprise his son and then said how is horoscope said he should make a romantic move with the person he was interested in and asked me what I was doing later and I said nothing so we agreed to meet up.
I didn't know what time we would go out because he had 3 hours to drive, but I quickly got stuff done I needed to and because I wanted to make a good impression I even died my hair to hide the gray lol and then I sat and waited and waited. I was anticipating him to get here around 6:30 or 7 based on when he said he left and we didn't meet till 9 and we went to eat n park and had dinner. (he had time to wash his car, but made us wait till 9 to meet, I was a little miffed at that) He greeted me with a hug. I dressed up, he was in sweats. He told me he was 5'7 my height he is shorter than me so that's not a big deal, but he is not 5'7.. He is a retired soldier and works for the govt. now. Has a 10 year old boy which although I want to be a mom I am not anywhere near wanting to be an instant mom or to make one date into an exclusive relationship.
We talked an ate for about an hour and a half. There were a few awkward pauses, but there was also some good conversation. About 6 different times he said to me oh I told you this already remember and he didn't tell me already. We only had one short telephone conversation and all the rest were stupid little texts. So I am not sure if maybe he is talking to someone else as well as me which is fine because we have no arrangement what so ever, but it was just awkward to keep saying no you really didn't tell me that. Before the end of the date he asked me out again for the next time he is in town. I said yes. We left he paid for dinner and walked me to my car he hugged me again, and gave me an extra little squeeze as he walked by me. I should be really happy right? A nice guy, with great manners, a really good guy, but I feel odd. I can't put into words how I feel. Maybe all these years of being single and putting up with douche bags has made my ideal guy impossible to find. I am not giving up on Don already, but maybe I need to give up my ideal? I guess I always imagined a guy who would go that extra mile for me and in a way driving three hours was going a few hundred miles, but he was coming whether I had said yes or not to see his son. I guess I am a true romantic and want the guy who takes time to look good, who might bring me flowers, who notices that I dressed up and says Maria you look nice tonight. In texts he did compliment my pictures saying he thought I was cute, but in person...nothing. I guess I expect/want too much. I have been single for so long though I don't want to settle for less than what I want. I feel so lost, I guess maybe I just need to let go of the dream and settle for reality. I however do need to find out at some point if we keep dating if he wants to have more kids and get remarried, because if I can have the chance to carry one of my own I want it and I don't think I would risk that to be with someone. Thanks for reading my crazy thoughts, feel free to give advice or tell me I am stupid for still dreaming of Mr. Right for me ( I am not looking for a perfect man, just the one who is the right match for me). Take care.