Legal Aid in The day to day

I called Legal Aid today and thankfully they do help with divorce cases. After giving them some information, the gentleman said I should qualify for help. He’s sending me a 10 page packet in the mail to go over thoroughly and fill out, then mail back. Once they receive it they have 60 days to review it and decide if I qualify. Which again he said shouldn’t be a problem. Then they will set up times for someone to help me through the divorce process. They will guide me through all the paperwork. So that should be good as long as they say yes to helping me. We have to be separated for 60 days before a judge will sign off on a divorce decree. I said our separation date was January 1.

Husband came home Sunday night. He apologized for the Facebook picture being posted. He said she did it from his phone while he was sleeping. He didn’t see it until way after he woke up the next morning. He figured too many people had seen it by then to delete it. That’s a little bit of a cop out I think. I asked if he was upset with her for doing it. He said he was because he had told her no one knew about her besides me and my best friend. So yeah she outed him to my whole family because I hadn’t told them about him seeing someone. <insert emoji="" eye="" here="" roll=""></insert>

He cried a lot on Sunday night. He wants us to continue to be friends. But would understand if I didn’t want to be. He did make it clear that even if things don’t work out with this girl that he wouldn’t be coming back to me. I had already come to that conclusion on my own. I told him that things may be awkward right now while we are going through this, but that I wouldn’t want to not be friends with him for the sake of the kids. It is really hard to be upset with him when he’s here in my face. We can’t have been together for 17 years for there not to be some sort of friendship. It may take awhile to get to that but I wouldn’t mind it.

I told him that there would be no more sex from me. That he was cut off from that. I think that caught him off guard a little bit. We had sex on Friday morning (the 17th). But I think I still held out a little hope that things may end up differently. After this weekend and everything that took place, I was certain we would never be back to where we once were. So he’s cut off. He hasn’t been physical with the girl he’s seeing yet, so I think he assumed I’d still assuage that need for him. Big ol’ NOPE.

My oldest was supposed to have a therapy appointment today but his therapist had to cancel. Luckily they were able to reschedule for this Friday. Thank goodness because two weeks ago we had to cancel because my son had the flu. I really need to relay everything that is going on to the therapist. God knows my son needs some coping skills to learn for all that is going on. I just hate this for both of them. I know we will all be okay but this period of adjustment will definitely be a rough one.

All in all things aren’t rattling me as much as they were in the beginning. The stage of acceptance has set in. I am sure once the legal stuff starts happening my anxiety will be high again. Nothing I can do until that comes though.