The other bits of Update in Second 1st

My mom called me at a break on Friday. Asking if I could help her with some research. I hadn’t told her I was going back to work. I didn’t want her to worry.... and if I failed… I just wanted to avoid it right now. Anyways she had called. My sister isn’t getting her meds when she should and it’s becoming evident in behavior. Along many other things that just are just not right for a group home. Like children living in the home and Alicen (my sister) generally taking care of them. Now part of me thinks well.... it’s good for her because she has a child she does not take care of.... but it’s not good for the children for sure. It’s also not something the state would allow if they knew. So we are going to find her another place and then have it investigated. It’s not an easy task to move her though. You can’t just google group homes and get a list and call for openings. Group homes have “types” of people they will take or won’t take. Then obviously we’d need it to be all female residence with a 24/7 attendant.

Mom’s got some calls in waiting for feedback.

Destiny, my best friend, she has a wonderful mess with seeing her middle child. The back story here is that she gave temporary custody of her children to people she thought cared at a time when she didn’t care about herself and it was in the best interest of the children. She has since gotten back where she should be (mentally) and has a child at home now. She has been prevented from seeing her middle child for 8 years by those she once called friends. During those 8+ years they have had her they have been filling her mind with all kinds of stupid stuff.... like Destiny is an alcoholic who takes her children to a bar every night so she can choose her next boyfriend as they only last a week or so..... truth in that is a that they do go to a bowling alley once every other week where her and her boyfriend of 10+ years bowl in a league. They stay and do Karaoke.... it’s a family oriented place and though you can get a drink at the bar she hardly ever partakes because yes her child is usually with her. There are many other horrible things they have told Gabby about her mother and at 13 she’s believed most of it.

Without a lawyer the judge has pretty much put Destiny in a category she does not belong.... until of course she was able to afford one and thing have been looking up since.

This last week the female counterpart to the guardians decided to write in a google document that Gabby and Destiny had set up. She pretended to be Destiny, telling Gabby she doesn’t want to see her more than once a week. Gabby being upset wrote back and it was upsetting to see “leave us alone” and “my family” ..... we really thought it was just the guardian making stuff up. Destiny was able to get some screen shots before it was deleted.

Gabby and Destiny saw the counselor this week in their now weekly Integration meeting. Gabby brought it up, apologizing for being rude in her letter to Destiny. Destiny played confused because other than this fake business she had gotten no letter, she also is not allowed to talk to Gabby outside the meetings and the letter she is allowed to send once a week. Gabby was all kinds of confused and told the therapist she thinks her mom (the guardian) as a prank. This is not funny. Messing with Gabby’s emotions making her think her mom only wants to see her because she has to..... it’s sick. Noted by the therapist as well as...... Destiny asked Gabby what she would like for her birthday and Gabby responded with “I know this may sound strange but hear me out first. I want my mom and dad (the guardians) to adopt me. When they do I will get to see Destiny, brother, sister, and grandma whenever I want.” Other than that the conversation (according to Destiny) was light and went well. They even sang some together at Gabby’s request. Destiny has been posting her singing on YouTube and Gabby watched everyone! lol. All kinds of cute.... all kinds of right.

After the visit the therapist asked that Destiny stay a moment and Gabby left. They told her that Destiny had to schedule more visits and as soon as the door was shut..... The therapist said “How dare they. How dare they tell her that once she’s adopted she can see you. How dare they hold it over her like that. How dare they pretend to be you and say those things. You can guarantee this is going to be known by the judge. This is all going in writing that Gabby thought it was you until it was clarified. The judge is not going to be happy about this.” Destiny said she was straight up angry as they both should be. This isn’t a game. This is about making sure Gabby has been and is raised in a home with people who LOVE her. Destiny has never been more excited about a court date than the one coming. Just to see what the judge has to say about the guardians interference with Destiny trying to have a relationship with her daughter. I can’t wait either.

Rocky’s still liking his job and decided to take an opportunity to work more OT on Thursday. So .... I get today with him.... and we got groceries last night… and Joseph and Kerri should be over tonight ( I hope Rocky cancels) so.... it’s 10 now… maybe Rocky will wake up and I’ll see him for a bit more this week.... who knows.