My Wife Fucked Another Home Depot Coworker in Just another day in Paradise...

This is to document what is going on in my current living situation.

Caroline MacDonald from Edmonton whom I met on ProseBox moved to NOLA and we ultimately got married. She cheated on me with a Home Depot coworker in Flooring before her 2 years of residency here, but lied to me and manipulated me into believing that she would work on the relationship. She just wanted to get to the two year marker to become a resident where I sponsored her. She’s admitted as much.. it recently came out she not only wanted to keep her job she was hoping she would be able to have a relationship with Flooring. Turns out he was only using her but she was determined to believe he was a special connection, a good person, and they had a lot in common and he truly deeply cared for her.

It took a month for this to be obvious. It took Caroline destroying our marriage and almost 6 months for her to finally realize he didn’t give a shit. Mostly because he didn’t give her enough attention to fuel her insatiable desire for attention.

We ended up going to Marriage Counseling. The tentative agreement we had after years of her beating me into submission that she wanted out and me trying to make it work and her just constantly keeping her wall up separating us.. so I agreed we would get financially out of our mutual debt. Until then neither of us would get involved in any sort of sexual or romantic relationship so as not to complicate things. And we would still fool around. She hated the fooling around so it rarely happened, to be honest, but basically I spent all of my time cooking for her, cleaning, cutting grass, taking out trash, recycling, shopping, cleaning.. and doing all the things a boyfriend or husband does for their lover like I’d buy her an icee and surprise her with it at work and she did.. laundry. So the occasional climax every so often was literally all she had to do to get off the list of doing actual chores and such.

But she fought it and I usually ended up going to bed sad and lonely.

We went to therapy. She kept saying she has resentment for me because I’m “forcing” her to be sexual. Which isn’t true. She only does it if she wants to. And trust me, she rarely wants to, and it’s not fucking hard it’s a couple minutes I do most of the work. Sometimes she just lays there naked. It’s embarrassing.

She claims she’s not sexual anymore and never was? Which makes no sense but she was wildly sexual when we met. Voracious.

I’ve discovered she finds someone when she’s unhappy. She invests everything into them. She creates a fantasy around them. Then she stops at NOTHING and at no cost (including attacking Tiffany, legit she personally attacked Tiffany and told her all sorts of fucked up things to try and get her to back off from liking me back in the day, admitted it later..) to get what she wants. She wanted me and she eventually got me.

We got married. She got hurt by me when she fell into a deep dark medication absent depression that lasted beyond 3 weeks straight where she slept at minimum 18-20 hours a day and laid in the dark the rest of the time on her phone.

I didn’t know humans could live in darkness so long.

Honestly, I recovered from drinking by myself in a lot of ways and alone. Eventually I lost my cool and just yelled at her to please please please at least get the fuck up and come to the couch to eat with me. You gotta get up and move! Movement is medicine!

Now, I was an ignorant asshole for doing that. I had not experienced such intense Bipolar depression. Kids, do NOT follow Brian’s how to cheer up the depressed. I failed her then as a friend, a lover, and husband.

But she put up a wall. Shut me out. Hasn’t lowered it since despite years of me begging, pleading, proving myself, etc.. She’s never forgiven one person in her life.

She’s also never truly loved one person in her life.

She’s a bit of a terrifying person to be honest. Her dead eyes scare me. A lot.

The marriage counseling helped for a while, I brought in some money for a bit, and things seemed better but as Caroline always does a few weeks in she stops trying. She gets lazy. She gets resentful. Then she gets revenge. And we spiral backward..

She stopped going to therapy and wouldn’t reschedule..

And finally I was done, my last straw. We go to therapy.

My last straw I keep telling her.

This entire couple years I’ve begged her to go to personal therapy.

She had me read stuff on Bipolar. She brags she takes her medication without fail. Which is great and I’m glad she does. Only the name brand Welbutrin works for her. But there’s 3 ways you combat Bipolar.. 1. Medication 2. Exercise/Good Diet and 3. Quality Therapy

She has a physical job in paint at Home Depot and she eats well when I cook for her, but she’s avoided the therapy. She also blames me for everything that goes wrong in her life. I’ve become the tip of the spear of problems in her life in every way.

During therapy Caroline basically again says she’s truly try in every way but only if I take away sex. Remove it from the table she can start to not resent me and then she’ll be attracted to me again not resentful and maybe she’ll want to.. my counter was as usual she’ll ask for something not deliver what she agreed to do, then blame that on me or another reason so she can just not have to fool around with me at all..

But usually she truly complains about the sex when she’s into another guy with feelings not just her desperation for attention. So I knew.

Had another kidney stone attack that night after therapy… at 2am called 911 because I was weak, in insane pain, and was sweating drenching my bed and nauseous and then dizzy.. and it didn’t pass after 20 minutes by taking meds.. 45 mins later..

They decide at 6am in the ER they want to admit me. My vitals were garbage. Low blood sugar, 95 degree temperature. High blood pressure.. did not get a room upstairs until 5pm.. you read that right spent 15 hours in the ER. Got the room. Spent the night alone.

Get home. She goes to work.

FINANCIAL NOTE OF SIGNFICANCE: We agreed because NEITHER of us can afford to live on our own to stay with the other until we EACH are free of our JOINT and INDIVIDUAL DEBTs incurred while together much of it while she could not work for a year plus while applying for residency in the states.. and she agreed verbally to NOT bail on me without notice that she wouldn’t if she could just leave me high and dry with my car bill especially amongst others and of course she knows I’ll never do that to anyone let alone her.

She tells me shes gonna be late. Yeah.. I go to Popeyes for food, and on my way swing by Home Depot just to see if her car is parked. If it’s not then she’s lied if it is she could still be doing shit but also being honest. She walks out with a guy.. they embrace..

That night she gets home I am actually against my better judgement (I was ready to end it, talked divorce lawyers) willing to say I’ll take the sex off the table. But what I just saw..

She admits she’s got a guy. She’s been actually fucking him for a month on their lunch breaks in their car.

He is married with kids.

He said it was an open marriage.

Found out later she got told by the wife later on nope Reggie in Lumber is a liar and a player.

Caroline of course.. believes Reggie not the wife?

He a week earlier cut things off with her. Why?

She texted him without permission.

Kid had his phone.

Wife found it. They fought.

She still believes Reggie though?

He’s a fat bald Puerto Rican. I don’t think I’m gorgeous but.. wtf? She likes ugly men but whatever. Girls lately with me trade down big time.. in looks and especially everywhere else.

So he tells her he can be friends but only at work.

It’s obvious to me she was willing to work things with me somewhat because he bailed on her.

But then she’s in this manic crazy Caroline obsessed way.. she after a month of knowing him was talking about WAITING FOR HIM. Like, waiting for his kids to GRADUATE from HIGH SCHOOL and move out and so he could then be with Caroline.

Like whaaaaaaat?

We spent all day fighting and arguing.. she actually to her credit shows me the texts.. she sent him nudes, too. Shocker. She’s now got FOUR separate Home Depot guys all of them are her “friends” and all are flirting with her. That’s the extent of her real life friends. These four home depot guys all trying to fuck her. That’s IT.

My name is mentioned in every conversation excessively.

NOT ONCE is the name Brian mentioned in any positive light.

I am not kidding. Like not even Brian grabbed me a drink from the fridge that was nice. Nothing. You would believe I was Hitler’s PR agent.

Apparently everyone at Home Depot knows they are a couple because Lumber is on the other side of the store and they don’t hide it.

I showed up at Home Depot, confronted him, asked if he likes fucking other people’s wives he says really man you wanna bring this to my work, I tried to say YOU brought it to YOUR work, but he blew me off and walked away.

Caroline freaked out.

She asked me after I left if she tries will I keep her? She can’t lose everything.. Panic Panic.. I asked her won’t this be another of her manipulations? She begs me repeatedly not to go back at 7pm to confront him like he offered..

She offered to switch stores..

7 comes and she asks where I am. I said I’m not coming. She asked why. I said she didn’t want me to and she seemed on a meltdown.. so.. She said I can do whatever I like. Then taunted me saying I thought you wanted to confront him man to man, well he’s here waiting.. where are you basically.

WTF??

You begged me NOT to go now you’re TAUNTING ME for listening TO YOU?!?!

I wanted to go. Jesus..

She gets home. He’s talked to her. She stayed late to talk to him. She’s edgy and unhappy. She went from desperate to do anything to keep me and not get kicked out to..

“He told me he’ll do anything for me.”

“He’s going to help me find an apartment.”

“He’s going to get a job promotion and then start helping me pay my rent.”

“I want to do this on my own.”

Uhm, If you go from me where you can leave at anytime and have a foundational support system (we’re a decent team together despite the problems, we work well together) with Thomas and I and you know Twizzler (her cat) LOVES me and my dogs Sam and Dean.. to living in an apartment he finds relying on his money while he still has his wife and kids? He already said his kids are priority.

I read the texts. All she does in the texts is wait around aasking for permission to cum for him. Thinking of him. Missing him. Desperate for him. Wants to please him. Is she allowed to see him today? Is she allowed to text him later? She gets scraps of times from this guy.

She’s pussy in the back seat of his car during lunch.

Why’d she fall in love with me over the 18 months I made her prove herself to me before I got with her....?

I’m an exceptionally good person, I’m always working at bettering myself, I’m interested in much the same music, TV, films, games she is (we played League of Legends together, marathon shows, etc), I love arts/sports and she’s a fan of each.

Why’s she so into him (she told this to a friend)…?

He’s a really good person. He always tries to get better. Likes the same shows/movies. Likes arts more than sports.

They have talked about a future together..

They have not had one 5 hour conversation not actually slept in the same room not actually had a date really.. like what the fuck?

She always blames things failing with me because it changed from the fantasy I was in her head to the reality of living with me.. and that was after months long visits and 6-8 hour skype video calls EVERY night for a year and a half..

It’s why we’re a really good team together.

This is so beyond crazy.

I told her you realize that he lied to you already about the open marriage. He thinks so much of you he fucks you in the backseat during lunch breaks, and you can’t speak to him without permission. You’ll always come behind his kids.

And he’s not leaving his wife nor his kids. He’s the classic married guy. Tell the side piece you’ll leave so she stays, the longer she stays the harder it is to leave, it’s a cycle.. and she’s at the start willing to sign up for it.. if she ends up actually in an apartment under his control relying on his money for rent..

Is that sort of a sex slave thing?

She’s willing to throw this all away for it. It is beyond me.

BTW, she’s willing to go the therapist.. but she says she wants to go to the therapist so she doesn’t ruin things in the next relationship thats her focus.. it’s all centered around this guy. Even the self-help. She also says she can be patient when she needs to. She proved that with me. She waited 18 months.

I ultimately believed her because what kind of psychopath can put on a show for 18 months?

The kind I married.

I’m scared for her.. she’s escaping into a very bad situation this time. Her ex was a good guy. I’m a good guy. This reeks of scary. He acted like a thug and calls her “bbg” baby gurl.

I mean what the fuck yall.

She probably will read this entry.

What advice do you guys have? Honest and sincere advice?

I don’t want to see her hurt or used or fucked over. I will always care about her.

Time to go find my heart.

It’s shattered around here somewhere.

Fuck you, Canada.