Bill's Brother is Gone in Still Listening to Spirit
- Sept. 2, 2013, 1:47 a.m.
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Bill, my Hub, got a phone call around 9am Saturday morning, or maybe it was an e-mail, I quite frankly have some confusion about the details. It was his brother, Bob's wife's Karla calling to say that Bob died in his sleep Friday night. The coroner suspects a heart attack but cause is pending autopsy.
Bill was asked by Karla to notify his sister in Idaho. Bill did this by e-mailing and calling every number he had for her with no contact made. Finally, his sister answered an e-mail. She has a cellphone but doesn't know how to work it, mainly uses it to keep in contact with her husband on the large property they are living on, and half the time doesn't even know where the cellphone is! Anyway, so she has been contacted.
Bill and I are SO grateful that he had a chance to talk to his brother, Bob, Wednesday or Thursday afternoon. I was in the throes of a major panic attack when Bob called. Bill was trying to help me out, but the minute he answered the phone and heard Bob, it was like I wasn't even in the room! Not funny, but yes it is and certainly not out of character for him. Later Bill apologized for being so inconsiderate and I told him it was fine.
We do not know about arrangements or anything else. Bill and his brother had a pact, saying, agreement? "If you are not going to visit me when I am alive, don't bother coming to see me after I'm dead." Both knew it would be impossible for Bob to ever visit because he quite literally couldn't leave the farm and hadn't for years. (agoraphobia?). Both also knew Bill and I don't have the resources to travel there, especially on short notice.
We both waiver between tears and laughter. Mostly tears. Bill isn't afraid or ashamed to cry--he just prefers not to.
I called Traci to see if we could send Karla to her for urn, casket, etc. Traci said she would do all she could to help. She is going to be out of town in Dallas from Tuesday until Friday along with the reality crew still doing their 'sizzle' reel. She reminded me that an urn is not necessary if one is going to scatter or bury the ashes. We also talked about keepsakes that she and I wish we had known about.
Traci said she wishes she knew she could get a cast of her father's thumbprint to make a necklace out of. We both talked about jewelery made from the ashes as well as small wearables which hold ashes. Traci also referred me to a funeral home in Andover, KS. she knows the guy who owns and runs it. She said he was the very best of humans and that they refer clients from their store to him when they have limited resources for arrangements. Traci said he would do low budget, high quality arrangements and solutions that wouldn't require the 'average' funeral costs.
I wrote all this to Karla in an e-mail. I haven't called her. I am reluctant to interrupt. She has family there in Kansas including a son and his wife and child. I am praying, it's all I can do.
I am stunned. I am sad. I am heartbroken and grieving. I am concerned for Bill.
I still say, Blessed BE!
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