June: Resolution Check in Book Six: Trying to Hold On 2019

It is a Monday, June 3rd… so this isn’t done on the 1st as I normally would prefer. Also, this is a Juvenile Court Monday and a Dog Training Monday… so I’m up to my eyeballs busy from about 8 a.m. until 10 p.m. so… I’ll be playing catch up a bit on reading/noting.

I hope but cannot promise that at the beginning of each month, I will review my Yearly Resolutions and chart where I am. It is another way of keeping me honest, keeping me focused, and hopefully- keeping me on track.

Resolutions

(1) Weight Loss
Beginner Goal: Get under 200 lbs.
Intermediate Goal: Get under 170 lbs
Expert Goal: Get back to 160 or less
Path
Beginner Goal: Requires a 3 lb loss per month
Intermediate Goal: Requires a 5 lb loss per month
Expert Goal: Requires a 7 lb loss per month

JANUARY START: 235 lbs.
FEBRUARY START: 226.4
MARCH START: 223
APRIL START: 222
I’m now using two different scales. So this measurement may get… complicated? I’ll post as follows
MAY START. GYM SCALE: 221.0
MAY START HOME SCALE: 119.2
JUNE START GYM SCALE: 223.6
JUNE START HOME SCALE: 219.8
Total Lost 1 Month GYM: Gained 2.6 pounds
Total Lost 1 Month HOME: Gained 0.6 pounds
Total Lost Year to Date (using gym log): 11.4 lbs

Clearly not good news. I mean, there are things to point out. ITEM 1: 220 has long been my plateau weight, so the idea that I am stuck “around there” is not surprising. ITEM 2: There were approximately 12 hours between GYM weight and HOME weight and while I don’t believe the discrepancies in the weight reading signify actual weight lost; but it should be noted that it indicates a swing of almost 4 pounds. ITEM 3: Birthday and Memorial Day eating and drinking may but may not play a portion. ITEM 4: Due to a foot injury, I did not work out for approximately 10 days, or around 1/3 of the month. BOTTOM LINE: I need to do better. In order to get “at least under 200 pounds” (beginner goal) I still need to lose about 3 pounds per month. Though honestly? At this point, if I could get down to 210 I’d celebrate the accomplishment. My Physicals have said 220 for the last 5 years and I’m very much over it!

(2) Marriage Help
Wife and I get to a point in our marriage where Physical Intimacy exists and is not “the exception” or we begin the process of divorce.

JANUARY START: Counseling Sessions
FEBRUARY START: We’re doing counseling, re-connecting via exercise and board games, doing date nights, and she’s more accepting of kisses and physical closeness. Still no sex, though.
MARCH START: We actually had sex twice last month. That is a good start. But also, we’re seeing some back sliding in other areas. Attempting to create sustainable, consistent change, and healthy lifestyle choices is going to need to be a key focus.
APRIL START Some positives and negatives. In March, knowing how busy I would be… my wife would make Magic Risotto (which can feed one man for three weeks) for me to take with me as lunch. GOOD. She also allowed me a less restrictive alcohol consumption and alone time schedule. GOOD. We almost didn’t have sex the entire month. BAD. We really didn’t do a whole lot together. BAD. But when we did have sex this month, it was spontaneous, extemporaneous, physical, and fun… the most fun in sex we likely have ever had in our marriage. So that’s REALLY GOOD. Then the meltdown over the puppy happened. So that’s shaky.
MAY START: I’d say we’re at a Good News/Bad News Rollercoaster. Good News: Wife got over the puppy meltdown quicker than her meltdown last year; Bad News: Her focus is still primarily on building a relationship with the puppy. Good News: The Puppy is helping Wife and I to see and understand specific things about each other that, but for the puppy, we would not have seen. Bad News: Almost all of our “alone” time is spent with puppy watching television. Bad News: No sex all month.
JUNE START: At present the good news/bad news train is hovering almost exclusively at Bad News. My wife and I are more emotionally distant from one another. More physically distant from one another. So obviously no sex. Which means: No Sex January, Twice in February, Once in March, No Sex April, No Sex May. Plus, we honestly seem to be in a “barely have a relationship” place right now. We had counseling to start the month (literally as it was on the First) and we’ll have one more counseling session this month… but I think it is pretty plain to see right now. We’re in a moment where Wife has to start actually doing some positive, pro-change things… or we’re not going to see a positive upswing by the end of the year.

(3) House Completion
Beginner Goal: Basement Finished
Intermediate Goal: Basement Finished & All Repairs Complete
Expert Goal: Basement Finished & All Repairs Complete & Fence Erected Properly

JANUARY START: Almost finished with Primary Basement Space
FEBRUARY START: All but one or two things finished with Primary Basement Space
MARCH START: Basement space has all furniture (minus dining room chairs) and most electronics properly hooked up. For Basement Completion need CMPtoHDMI converter, Dining Room Chairs.
APRIL START: Basement is, dare I say, entirely finished but for Dining Room Chairs. The entire inside of the house is almost entirely finished but for a few bits and bobs and going through all the required repairs. AND the fence. We get the fence up, the dining room chairs, the 3-Season Room and Back Patio furnitured.... I think our house is “Set Up” :) So… some work to do, but less each month!
MAY START: We still need chairs for the bloody basement but the curtains are up and most of the basement is complete. We are getting the fence up this month and Wife is looking into doing some yard work. I think the House will be one of our real triumphs of the year.
JUNE START: Interesting elements. We still need chairs for the basement. We still have multiple repairs needed for the kitchen and main bathroom. We still have concrete repairs that are needed. We still need a curtain for our kitchen windows. BUT the basement is almost entirely done and the Fence is up! So.... Beginner Goal almost achieved… Fence up… if we can get chairs for the basement dinning room table; all that is left for Expert Completion is calling a plumber and/or electrician and/or concrete guy.

(4) KEEP MY JOB and get better at it.

JANUARY Start: Job kept. Slow Season
FEBRUARY Start: Job kept. Things moving faster. Volunteering to help more.
MARCH Start: Job kept. March promises to be busy, full, and challenging.
APRIL Start: Job kept. Jury Trial under my belt (and a mostly win at that!)
MAY Start: Job kept. Learned how to apply for, obtain, and assist in the execution of DNA Non-Testimonial Identification… so that’s a good thing to learn!
JUNE START: Job kept. Prosecutor’s Conference this month should be a good place to increase my knowledge!