Unnecessary Roughness in meh...

So, I’ve probably written about my dad’s sister that I keep in touch with. She’s about as grumpy an old person as there can be. She has a good heart, but I swear she can be so toxic, you can put her in a metal barrel with the skull and crossbones on it.

Easter yesterday was a wonderful day. My grandson actually loves coming to church, he loves being involved with the youth department. He learned his speech and the songs. He can be caught singing them on his own in his own little worship I suppose. It’s sweet.

Well anyway, after all of the festivities were over, we had dinner at the church. The kids were being kids. Everyone was mingling and such. I sat at the table with Auntie and I asked her if she wanted me to fix her a plate even though the seniors could go first. She said that my cousin, her daughter, was going to get her one. My grandson comes over and went to get a soda. He didn’t open yet and he wasn’t about to when she kind of pounced on him about not drinking it until after he ate. My dad was sitting with us which was the second deterrent for me to kind of pull her back.

Anyway, I walked away and where I was, I noticed that he popped open the soda, but I think it was an unconscious doing. I caught his eyes and told him not to touch it. She wasn’t even paying attention to him which was wonderful. I let people be how they are, but if I can help it, I shield my babies from that behavior. Because I can handle it and they are kind of little to understand that. I told him to come to me and we got our food at that time and that was that.

He did very good eating his dinner. I was surprised because he doesn’t usually like mac and cheese made with real cheese. He ate all of his salad with ranch on it and his ham. He had two pieces of cake and then they gave out “baskets” (which were brown paper bags) full of treats. He did’t understand that the colorful eggs were just colored hard boiled eggs. I never dyed eggs with my kids because I didn’t eat boiled eggs and neither did they. Well my son did, but no. So we were having a discussion about it, the grandboy and myself, and I was kind of fussy because I was trying to make him understand. There were some other things mentioned, like really trivial, and my aunt just went full…herself on him. He was looking at her, I was looking at her and glanced at my dad and then looked back at her. I held back because she is my elder and I don’t want to start anything at church, in front of my leader/father. But I was kind of boiling. What she said was unnecessarily harsh to him and I didn’t know how to respond. I’m either an all in or nothing type person when it comes to defending and I was not about to choke out my auntie in front of my dad. So I looked at Gbaby and he was near tears and said to me that she is mean. He went to sit down and the chair slid kind of from under him and I caught him and she said something else. I told him to go find the other kids and hang out with them.

I got up and walked around a bit and calmed down. After a while I sat down and we just chatted some more. Someone came over and we started talking about something else, and I said something to her like that was so mean and she said I’ll get you too. So I said to her then we will just be scrapping, sister and she said, well come on with it. And then we started laughing, and my dad kind of chuckled about it. Then he got up to make his rounds.

As I sat there, one of my other cousins walked up and started talking to Auntie and she mentioned one of my stepsister’s and her family that came in. This sister has her own fashion sense and even makes her own clothes. She and her daughter had on these hat like caps that probably needed a hair pin to keep them on and their dresses were flashy and frilly. It was cute for them because that’s who she is. They were talking about them looking like a circus act. They were talking like I wasn’t there. I remember one other time she mentioned something about my stepmother’s dress one day. I said to her that I thought it was pretty, then she said I was crazy too. I said, Oh well.

Later on, I went to get something else to eat and walked over to the table my brother and his partner. I had this look on my face and my brother asked what was wrong? I said, “I love Auntie, but she is HELLA toxic and I can’t take much more of her toxicity. I’m trying to be cool and I know how she is, but I can’t deal with all this toxic mess.” Then I asked him to save me. LOL But as the Lord would have it, she left before I did. So I was able to chill out a bit for the remainder of the day despite my growing headache.

I have another story to recall. LOL
Will do that a bit later.

Otherwise, I hope you all are happy/content with things, and healthy.
Love to you all.

Kindest regards,
Sister