Whats love got to do with it? in Riverdale

What's love got to do w it

I'm watching that movie right now and really making a lot of connections.

About abuse About control

That it never is and never was about love

It's about ownership

Not about caring Or seeing the person as who they are

But what they do What they can offer About performance About the image What is portrayed on the outside

That once you are taken controlled and "owned"

Any of the sweetness the manipulation the "love" is gone

You have been had

It's an obsession

Case in point my one abuser after three years still stalks me and tries to get me back

It's delusional

Possession

The abuser needs you

Because he is weak Because he is needy and insecure There is nothing inside Just emptiness No sense of self

Ruthless person

They are not happy people inside It's all just this game Trying to ruin you conquer you drag you down into the dirt and depths of dispair that they are feeling

Love is useless to them Because love is selfless and caring and kind It's not blind obedience, fear, jealousy, anger hate or control

They want a bond An attachment An attachment to their false promises and fake persona and empty actions which aren't about their love

It's all for show

All the jewellery All the flowers Gifts Kisses I love yous I am sorry I didn't mean to's All the promises for the future All the promises period.

An awkward attempt to try prove that they have humaness in then

But it's all a lie deceit a ploy

Just playing you like a toy

Life's a game to be won to them.

They don't want love They don't need love

They won't change once they stop drinking smoking working less hours stop cheating get their anger under control

Because those are just symptoms of a bigger problem a bigger mentality

They are sober and the games just get sneaker

They don't wanna change Don't know how to change Underneath it all is rage bitterness jealously infuriority

It's a competition

It makes them feel alive because they are very dead inside

It makes them feel big because inside they feel weak and very small

It makes them feel strong because inside they are very scared and feel powerless

It makes them feel calm because inside they are restless bored unsure and confused

They don't feel connected They feel alone They hate They are mad

Spiteful They want to win Succeed Dominating is the only way they know how to do this The victories they have that's how they win them

They are psyched inside when they can deceive and lie to get their way

It's easier than putting in the work

They don't know how to communicate so they terrify bully abuse to get what they want when sweet talking charming faltering and grooming aren't working

They hit kick punch and kill when they know they cannot get their way any other way

Their soul is a bottomless pit

There heart is torn apart in shreds

They are never satisfied or done

They don't connect or care about Anybody but themselves

It doesn't matter if you are their daughter son dog mother or father

They don't have values or character or any real goals

It's just pure instinct and fight and gaming using abusing leaving retaining saving loosing

An uphill battle to maintain

No settling down even when they are married

No changing even when they have kids

Life goes on

If they leave you it's hard at first but it's the best thing that could ever happen because if they choose to continue to try to own you in sone way they never give up ever unless they can't anymore

They won't listen to you telling them no go away or you ignoring them

Because they don't respect you or care

They hardly fear anything and most definitely not rejection

They won't listen to the police

The only way away from them sometimes is too escape hide run away or fight back and fight back hard

Harder than you have ever fought in your life

Show them no mercy compassion or thought

Fight for your dignity pride and your life

They are delusional calculating fearless and without a real soul

They cry crocodile tears

They are not upset that they have hurt you

They are do not regret what they did

They regret because they got caught Because they messed up and screwed up It's never ever ever about you really unless it has something to do with them and how it will effect them

They really cannot truely love