Babycakes Development in Adventures of New baby and family

This has been one of those topics I’ve been worried about but at the same time I’m not. Babycakes had speech today with his therapist. We had a good talk as his report came back and he’s improving alot. He tells me, when he was new he didn’t have anything to go on and treated them at their own pace but over time he compares them to other kids. Babycakes is on his own path. He says he’s only had 1 or 2 kids like him. This in a good way. He says they usually go through this jargon stage were they think they are talking but aren’t actually saying words. Babycakes apparently is skipping over this stage and means business. when talking. I laughed and said I give up trying to figure him out. I said he was like that when he learned to walk. Most kids learn to balance way before they walk. He never did. He walked before he could balance. Not once was he able to stand up and stay upright with out holding on to something. One day he took off and then learned it. He’s been like that he entire existence.

We talked more and it went into kind of maybe our background that he was like that but he asked how things were going with his father. The conversation went from he looks like a friend from college possibly to his personality. Something tells me that he had a heads up. He asked how things were like he knew something was up. Very smooth talking about him and then asking that question. I did say not great that he was in fact mentally ill and that he could relate, telling me about a family member that would write bad things about the cops and wouldn’t post what happened. He told me his dad was very smart like Dennis but was a loner. I told him Dennis was like that. He’s very smart but doesn’t like people for one of 2 reasons. One they aren’t as smart as them and he looks down on them and if they are at his level he feels threatened. Hmm you know what I didn’t think of that being the reason he told me.

The reason I know CPS is looking into the care of the kids and has to ask other entities. I’m sure his case manager gave him a call asking about what is going on and if he could find out. The other service person kind of found out more as she was here when one of the things went on. This one wasn’t here for like 2-3 weeks. Missed out on all the fun. So he had really no reason to ask if everything was going well. She was here when the police showed up at my door unannounced about yelling. I’m sure she couldn’t hear what was being said but knew something was up. There was a week in between and everything went down that afternoon after she left.

She commented last week that she could tell something was up with him as he didn’t talk or make eye contact. Even better was Jonathan came out of the house as bubbly as always not caring what was going on or that his father was a mess. I told her yeah… we all are kind of use to it. Deal with it and not really let it affect us.

I learned that long ago when my husband was sick. I could let it eat me up inside or I could feel normal. It was my choice. Empathy is great to an extent but their problems don’t have to consume you. As I think about the questions and answers I gave them. I’m sure it will be that despite his mental illness the kids seem to be well adjusted and as unaffected for the most part with his behaviors.

I really have been open and honest about his problem with the kids. Sometimes that makes them disappointed but they know his limits. I know they hear us arguing and that is no good too. Sigh. it is what is is with Mental illness.