Fun with Marital Issues in Book Five: Working Through the Maze 2018

So… I should have seen this coming… I should have seen this coming from a mile away.

I have a few more weeks left at my job. Leaving this job was thoroughly and massively discussed with my wife. This was not a decision that was made hastily. Nor lightly.

Now, my issues with work have been well recorded. My health, my frustration with the job, the ability to do the job without Firm control… my reasons for leaving have been well documented and well discussed.

My wife has… similarly well recorded her issues with work. She doesn’t like Wal Mart… she doesn’t like how Wal Mart is run… she doesn’t like that she has to do what other people say… lots of the petty stuff that comes with “working.”

Our issues about her work have been well documented. I have constantly tried to support her in her attempts to find what she wants to do instead. I have constantly been supportive; telling her to take classes or speak with her therapist or… for a dozen years I’ve been supporting her desire to get a different career. My support usually ends in a fight where Wife starts yelling that I don’t understand her fear or how difficult it is for her or something along those lines. Then, at our best opportunity in Tiny Town… I told her that (1) we have insurance and a high paying job… going to Community School would be exactly as far a drive as going to her Wal Mart job. But she was insistent that she would not take that opportunity.

This recurring refusal to do more for herself is one of the reasons why I felt even more capable of quitting my current job. Because since before we met, Wife has worked at Wal Mart and complained… hated it… blamed it for everything that is wrong.... and done little to nothing to change it.

So tonight, she was complaining about her “job hunt.” Her therapist helped her figure out how to get the “emotional ability” to speak to a Recruiter. Well, all she’s done is speak to her recruiter. The recruiter didn’t find a job for her. Wife only just called her back… after a few months of waiting. I suggested that she might have to also be her own recruiter. For example… I’m looking for a County Attorney gig. The state has a County Attorney Jobs page. I visit it often. BUT I’M NOT JUST DOING THAT! If I was… I wouldn’t have sent in a resume since December. For the gallery: I sent in 3 resumes in January. Because I also follow the Iowa Government Job Board and the Iowa Government Attorney Job Board. So… encouraging her to do more than the bare minimum if she hates her job as much as she still constantly complains? Created another opportunity for her to get mad, go off, and vent her frustrations at how life isn’t what she wants it to be.

Why is this now routine issue worth writing about?

Because this time she mentioned how it isn’t fair that I get to leave my job (again) while she is stuck at Wal Mart.

I don’t wish to offend my wife so I don’t say anything rough but.........

Truth is… it doesn’t matter what I do. Honestly. Nothing about my life impacts her decision to be at Wal Mart. But she doesn’t wish to take the responsibility that her own fear and personal issues keep her at this job; wherever the location. But as long as there are other things to blame, she will. So I don’t take it personally… I’m just… not exactly happy about it. I don’t need my Wife to make me feel bad for something I’m getting more and more comfortable/happy with.