Feminism in Talk Radio

I'm now convinced that sexism (against women) is a huge problem even among self-described progressives. None of the guys I have talked to and would consider sexist would say that women shouldn't be allowed to get an abortion, be denied the right to vote, paid less than an equal wage. Yet their attitudes towards women are still hostile. I have seen the same men have a stronger negative reaction to a cheating female spouse than a male one. They think it's okay to stalk their crush as long as he thinks she considers him good looking, "After all, chicks dig that Edward stalked Bella in Twilight." They imply or state outright that women are shallow and only seek large penis size and/or money. Or that women don't want sex as much as men do and would rather use it as a weapon. These are the guys who get angry or bitter when she rejects sexual advances even though he knows she's never wanted that from him. The ones that take the satirical website Ladder Theory seriously, and talk about it like it's a scientifically proven fact. These are most of the self-described "Pick up artists" in the "seduction community".

Even the polite guys who, calling it chivalry, are selectively only polite and coddling only toward women they want to fuck. Or the lonely guys who decide, based on the assumption that no women actually likes sex that much, that he's going to represent himself as that woman's perfect man-- claiming to be a sensitive guy with a low or nonexistent libido while masturbating to something like extreme tentacle porn behind closed doors. I imagine that woman who require a man with a low libido have a hard time finding someone who isn't a liar.

I've been pursued by most of these guys and declined them. I've previously described them as bitter, lonely and hostile, undateable due to their behavior. With further thought I think there is an element of sexism involved here, and it's dangerous. Some of these guys reacted very strongly when I turned them down. These guys who don't take "no" for an answer have been a threat to me all of my life: from violent sexually abusive behavior, to the mostly harmless like the guy in my guild who disregards my feelings and continues to hit on me after I ask him not to. I'm not saying that every tactless, sexually aggressive male will eventually sink to hurting someone. But, I think they have something in common with the more depraved. These guys all have a sort of darkness that comes from the desire to take what they want to the point of losing respect for women.

Last updated January 30, 2014