Offer (Revised) in BookThree: Flight Log 2016

Just got a job offer. No money discussed quite yet… but the suggestion was 60.
Problem is… it is in the Tiny Town. Tiny Town Only. So… decent money, experience, but a “crazy” boss that doesn’t want to train, and a town so devoid of entertainment options that Wife may go thoroughly insane. But… a job. That’s quality!

NEW MATERIAL

Thank you all for the congratulations. You all, more than most, know what I’ve been thinking and feeling during all of this. This whole event has certainly shown some… interesting sides to things. And this is where the emotional content of the above is.

My wife came home this morning from a dentist appointment. Spent thirty minutes talking about the numbness in her face. I got a call, answered it, and by the end of it I had a tentative job offer. I told my wife of the job offer… and she responded by going right back to talking about the Dentist Appointment. No shared excitement, no discussion as to the details… just right back to her numb face and scheduling her next appointment on Thursday. So… instead of getting caught up in a rush of excitement that I had finally gotten an offer… I was given time to consider all of the issues. The size of the town, the relative insanity of the acting County Attorney, the time table for it all. Filled with those thoughts, is when I announced on Prosebox. Then I called my mother. She was very excited and her first instinct was (1) to know that Wife wouldn’t be sharing in the excitement; and (2) to try to figure out a way for the situation to be better for Wife. Then I texted my father… a man who has long been worried about my job prospects. His response: ”Is this the County Attorney who is retiring shortly and has no time to train anyone? If so, do you really want to jump in the fire from the fry pan in the middle of no where? Think carefully and without panic.” It IS that lady and the careful w/o panic is good advice. But… this is the world I live in. My first job offer ever (in this line of work)… I’m worried about the town (Coming Soon: 13 Hours! Seriously… the County Webpage advertises the NEW movie coming to their one theater… and that’s it. A movie that was released nationally on January 15)… I have a lot of apprehension and concern but I am trying to think “It doesn’t have to be forever. It is experience. I should view this as a positive!” Meanwhile, my wife can’t see beyond herself to even have a modicum of joy for me and my father is (rightly) worried that the negatives will outweigh the positives.

Which is why… I’m not throwing a big celebratory party right now. Because my fears and worries are being fanned by my dad. Because my mom is happy for me but realistic about other concerns. And Wife was consumed by “No, listen to MY news!” and is now wrapping herself in a blanket of denial and reality rejecting because she’s worried about (1) housing, (2) her situation, (3) our life… she is now entering the “Consumed By Fear” stage.

Last updated March 21, 2016