Requesting your opinion in Day to day life from a woman that turned 60 in Oct 2014 and who lives on a farm and Retired on January 2, 2016. I plan to do more sewing, work outside in the yard and just enjoy my retirement.

Last night my home phone rang and I didn’t recognize the number but it had the same prefix as my cell phone so answered it. It was my DIL’s mom. I will call DIL’s mom Lee in this entry mainly because it is fast to type. ;)
So Lee hardly ever calls me unless she wants to “tattle” on what she believes her daughter and my son are doing on raising their kids, our grandkids wrongly. So on to the reason she called. She found out this week, probably yesterday, that the two grandgirls stayed home by themselves yesterday. The youngest, who is almost 4 stayed at the sitters at the unexpected cancellation of the school because of the unexpected snow. So this was the jest of the call. She is concerned that two girls stayed all afternoon by themselves and learned that on a couple of Saturdays they have stayed at their house while the parents were at work. In the middle of this conversation she also did/does not want me to say anything to anyone about her discovery and knows the grandgirls were not supposed to tell her they were staying by themselves on Saturdays. Lee wanted to know what I thought. Oh Geeze!!! I’m around10 years older than Lee. Not sure that makes a difference but I wasn’t as upset as she was about the thought of the two girls staying at home on Saturdays. They live in a good neighborhood. They have decent neighbors and as I relayed to Lee, I have noticed that both girls have matured over the last year. Yes they are still kids and my oldest grand daughter doesn’t turn 11 until next month. Am I happy about it? Not really, but I know that my DIL calls them throughout the day, the girls sleep in late, and depending on the hours my DIL is working she may not go in to work until 10 in the morning and my son gets home around 5. No one had told me the girls were staying home by themselves on Saturdays but they don’t have to. If I DID have major concerns and/or issues and since Lee swore me to silence, what could I do except worry myself to death, which I believe she is doing. She had called them yesterday afternoon and asked the oldest grand what they were doing. Mickey told her she was going to curl her sister’s hair with the curling iron. Lee told her not to as that was dangerous because she might burn sister with the curling iron and no one would be there. That statement blew me away as I would have been very happy they were not fighting and doing something they both enjoyed.

So your opinion: Am I being not concerned enough? And FYI the younger grand girl is almost 9.

Thanks for any thoughts on this.