It's a feeling of Entitlement in Journal

That I feel that comes up when it comes to family. Parents, spouses, etc. in the ego-identified state, that is. Because the ego may be very guarded, almost guaranteed it is, it wants to be secure and independent. To this end it guides one to reject those seeking energetic resources.

I imagine when I was born I was open and receptive to love. Like every baby born, without exception. And, as the story usually goes for my generation, the mother insists that the baby doesn’t respond to her, doesn’t love her like she wants it to, doesn’t make her feel good like she expected. She rejects the baby because of the wounding she received when she was born; thus perpetrating yet another link in the human chain of broken, guarded, wounded souls.

Stefan teaches that giving responsibility is the cure. Idk if it is. It certainly helps to separate and identify child from parent. A child is not just an appendage of the parent. A child is a full-fledged human being with the same divinity and rights and power as his parents. What’s more, the child is in a state of moral immunity. He can only have evil done to him. But he is incapable of doing evil. So when the parent treats the child as merely an appendage of herself, giving him no moral status of his own and saying this is my child, I choose what to do with him, she is merely casting all of humanity and herself included into the same bucket labeled “FREE WILL DOES NOT EXIST” Because if she fails to give to the child- the baby- her acceptance of his free will and ask what the child wants, she throws all of humanity in the same category.

Now I don’t know if Stefan is correct. Certainly the energetics of stating a positive creates resistance to the negative. If I decide to embrace, become, support, be, virtuous, then I must reject, abhore and destroy evil. And that sounds good, but what does it actually mean? It means that I’ve created and chosen to resist against that evil- to demonize and hate it. And yet without it, the virtue would not exist. It would be in a void of no definition. So this is a polarizing viewpoint. And it intrinsically creates antagonism.
Not all polarizing relationships create antagonism, btw.

Now, the Family Constellation dynamic is quite different. It teaches that an expansion of our perspective, compassion, acceptance, etc, does the same thing. It breaks the chain of broken human souls, that is.

There is also a further teaching in the polarity relationship space that femininity receives without judgement. And with vulnerability expresses how it makes her feel. The BIG PROBLEM with this dynamic is, obviously, it requires at least functionally empathetic people to operate. This will not fix a parent-child relationship in which the child is the only one willing to be functional. And often, that is the case, since the parent is always the one creating the dysfunction in the first place.

Now, aside from presenting problems like “I can’t reach the top cabinet” and waiting for some devoted male to come along and fix my problem, this dynamic doesn’t strike me as particularly productive even in chosen relationships. Both partners must actually have some kind of selfless love for the other… And that, my friends, is very rare.

At the end, it’s not J that I don’t trust to do the right thing. It’s me