Being attractive in Journal
- Jan. 28, 2025, 9:49 p.m.
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Isn’t actually all that great.
People lie to you more.
People are less likely to listen to you.
And while, yes, pretty privilege is a thing, it’s also a thing that people are aware of pretty privilege and some take it upon themselves to dish out their angst about it.
And, one can never be certain that physical attraction isn’t the only reason someone is around.
I can’t have an honest or vulnerable conversation with more than half the population, just by virtue of sex appeal.
You know, when someone is so hot or good looking that their age or marital status starts to not matter to you anymore? I feel like men are like that. They just have a lot less discipline when it comes to an (what they perceive as) available woman. And even if they aren’t, I feel like I’m a temptation that shouldn’t be speaking to them. And women are… Nasty. Mean. Petty. Vicious. Vindictive. Not all women, I’m sure. Just, 99.9%.
Some guy beamed at me at the store today. I smiled back because, you know, I felt like it would be impolite not to. Plus he genuinely had a kind sort of look to him.
Yet I wonder if I should wear my wedding ring. I don’t wear any jewelry; I have extreme chemical sensitivity and can’t tolerate it. No ear rings, no necklaces, no nothing. I can do pure copper. Or silver, or gold, lol.
The wedding ring I have is (I think) Sterling silver, but it used to be hubby’s Mom’s, and it’s too big for me. I end up playing with it because it spins right around and the rock ends up in the palm of my hand. It’s just very distracting, not to mention it will easily fall off somewhere without me noticing.
It’s not that, though. At least I don’t think so. A lot of the time I feel like a magnet. Especially if I am happy. If I am light, and responsive, connected,present. Maybe that’s all it is. In a sea of zombies, it is like a fresh spring day to find someone alive. And not just alive, but vibrant. I do feel like that; like a streak of magical rainbow, however ephemeral, in the lives of dreary drudgery around me.
I need to find other living souls to hang out with.
synapse ⋅ January 28, 2025
pretty privilege is just a wrong belief of misogynists, imho.
a lot of industries for "pretty people" on which we build our concept of privilege, like say modeling or acting, are rife with child labor violations, sexual exploitation, EDs addictions and traumas that come with exploitative environments, and human trafficking. to get the space to traffic and exploit attractive people, rapists who run these businesses have a big interest in creating the perception that it's super glamorous, but a lot of these people are merely being used and so must perform to keep up that illusion.
Miss Chiffs Manager synapse ⋅ January 28, 2025
No, it's a very well validated phenomenon.
The most attractive people across all disciplines make more money, even when they are less skilled or less competent.
synapse Miss Chiffs Manager ⋅ January 28, 2025 (edited January 28, 2025)
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yeah, I am aware of studies like that, but I don't think the downsides are studied at all. for example, on paper, Britney Spears makes a lot of money. in reality, she was held captive for a long time, didn't see most of the money, and suffered permanent psychic damage from child labor.
Miss Chiffs Manager synapse ⋅ January 29, 2025
Yes, and that is not a discipline.
Pretty privilege applies universally, applied to averages, across the sexes and races.
The pretty cashiers get paid more.
The pretty construction workers get paid more. 😉
synapse Miss Chiffs Manager ⋅ January 29, 2025 (edited January 29, 2025)
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you saying entertainment, singing, performing, is not a discipline?
if the cashiers get paid more in the cashier position, do they get promoted to the office, or kept outside on display? do you think the pay gap between men and women reflects how much better looking men are?
misogynists have a big interest creating resentment for women who have something they want and who won't give into them, I think you should be more critical.
Miss Chiffs Manager synapse ⋅ January 29, 2025
No, I'm saying being farmed out as a child is not a discipline.
Miss Chiffs Manager synapse ⋅ January 29, 2025
I think you should try to understand what it is that I'm talking about.
synapse Miss Chiffs Manager ⋅ January 30, 2025
lol