Day 24 - Anger Issues? in These Foolish Things

So…Dad is doing well so far! Thank you for all the notes yesterday. We were even able to joke about it a little bit. He said he told mom to keep her hands off him for a while, HA! So cute. I’m so glad he was in good spirits.

Yes, my dad has additional issues that require attention, but the urologist was like, this is the first thing we need to do to fix your problems, so…off with the foreskin!

Getting older may suck, but getting really old is a blessing and a curse.

Take care of your minds and bodies, folks!

We had a great conversation last night, and I’m so glad that everything went well. As far as logistics yesterday, my brother took Dad to the hospital on the way to work (it was on his way). Mom didn’t go because she has such a hard time getting around now and to be honest, doesn’t really understand everything anymore (sad), and my SIL was busy with a bunch of things.

So…their kind neighbor who lives across the street picked my dad up from the hospital. She was already in that direction (remember, they live in the boonies and have no hospital in their town, so doing things like doctor visits, etc. are complicated!), and they went to brunch together, which I think is so sweet.

Dad said they talked and talked and it was really nice. He said she wanted to know all about what was going on with me, and then, of course, their conversation turned to my brother.

She said - unsolicited! - that my brother seems very angry.

Now. My dad and I have talked about this before. She is NOT the first person to say this about my brother. My bro also goes to the same family doctor, who has expressed the same thing to my dad before as it concerns being taken care of. HIS DOCTOR said that there’s something very wrong with my brother! Maybe that’s a HIPPA violation? Doesn’t matter. The guy has issues.

So when I say that my brother gets VERY MEAN to me as it pertains to pretty much ANYTHING, I know that I am not just being the “victimized little sister.”

Here is my hope, and I know it’s a strange hope, but it might be possible? Maybe?

You know my SIL wants a divorce, right? But she really doesn’t have resources or a good strategy (hence the pulling of all of the money out of their joint account, thinking that she could just do that) to figure this out. I’m not saying that she’s incapable, but I am saying that she’s got some mental illness just like my brother does. And yes, I know we all do to an extent, but both of their issues are noticeable. She is even diagnosed, and she’s on meds.

But she HELPS my parents out in the ways she can. She cooks their dinners almost every evening, and she made sure that my mom was okay while my dad was at the hospital (she’s working a remote job right now), and she called me to let me know that everything was okay with my dad.

So, in a workable scenario, at least in my mind (and I brought this up to my parents), is that she and my brother separate, and my brother moves out of the house and finds himself a nice little apartment close to the school where he works (in a town 45 minutes away), and my SIL stays with my niece and my parents in that house where she can be comfortable and away from my very angry brother - and help with mom and dad!

It’s not a perfect scenario, but it feels workable to everyone. At least in my mind.

Obviously, none of this is my decision, nor should it be the most important thing on my mind. But my parents occupy a large part of my brain right now, and I am trying SO HARD to avoid my ANGRY BROTHER while making sure my parents are comfortable.

I know I can’t avoid him forever, but maybe…just maybe this will delay things for a while?

Ughhhh. Family.

xox,
GS