Day 4 - "What You're Walking Into" in These Foolish Things

It’s the end of the day on Saturday. I got up outrageously early, did my workout, dropped the dog at daycare and drove 3.5 hours to the big flea market before I drove the 30 minutes to my parents’ place to take my dad out to lunch for his 86th birthday (which isn’t until next Friday, but the weather is supposed to be bad next weekend).

Anyway, all of the above was fine and good and went off without a hitch. I found some pretty and fun scarves and a necklace at the flea, but barely had enough time to make a dent in walking the place when I needed to get back to my car to make it to mom and dad’s in time for lunch.

I gave them a call and asked dad if he wanted me to meet him at the restaurant or…and he said, “no…just meet us over here” (their house). He sounded distracted. OK. Fine.

A few minutes later, my brother called. He said, “I just want to let you know what you’re walking into when you get here.”

I was like, “Oh boy, okay, what?”

And he said something to the effect of my SIL moving all of their joint bank account money into a new account of her own and that she’s crying and still talking about a divorce and that dad is “counseling” her. He said I’ll be walking right into the middle of that.

Ughhhhh!!!

Long story short, bro and SIL did not go to lunch, but I still took mom and dad out. They needed to get out.

I have a lot to say about all of this, but I’ll never get it out tonight because I’m too tired and was almost driven off the road by a fucking truck as I was driving back home and then my car key fob stopped working when I picked Martini up from daycare and I’d locked everything in my car (but finally got it to work after a bunch of gyrations), so it was a stressful journey home and I need to get ready for bed because I have another loooonnnggg day tomorrow.

But anyway, I needed to get that out to document the dates of the family dramas.

Honestly, I don’t think I will likely stay very connected with my bro and his fam/ex-fam after mom and dad go. I know, that could be years from now, but still. I know that every family has drama, but this shit absolutely repels me. I’ve never had a good relationship with my brother, and my parents are so saddened by the whole thing. It breaks my heart for my parents, but I’m just OVER the bro and SIL thing.

And yes, their relationship affects me if it affects my parents.

Until later,
GS