Yearly update in Bittersweet

I didnt write this on Rhiannon's birthday. The day was just so... the day. It was black friday and just...

I was and still am reeling in some ways from B staying in California. Maybe it will work out. Maybe it will be a good thing. Him living there with his girlfriend. T got him a new laptop for Christmas. So he has that. He needs a cell phone. Hes working on getting a job. Hes scared to walk anywhere because of crime. Hes just not used to it and is even more of a homebody in a big city I guess. Im hoping it will be good for him but already we are seeing some cracks. Hes on his own save the girlfriend and her parents. They work. So hes feeling it. Hes trying to get on at amazon but its 10 hour shifts and 1.5 -2 hours commute one way. Sure he is 20. But its not exactly ideal for him either. 

Co is doing ok. All of 17. Hes making SOME smart choices. Like he isnt working so he can do school. Hes not doing great at school but at least he isnt focusing on work AND school? Otherwise he is doing good. Hes doing side jobs/odd jobs for my work to earn some money and hes really good with them. Always respectful and kind. They like him. Hes really grown out of his super asshole phase that made me want to strangle something. So im really grateful for that. he is 6 ft 4 now. Hes slowing down thankfully lol. Maybe hes done. He has no after highschool plans yet. Thats ok. We keep encouraging trade schools and ways he can earn money. He has no plans on moving out at this point. B moved out at this age lol.

Ch is doing pretty good. Hes getting more clingy in some ways. Hes 15 and while he is growing up. He is still very much mamas boy. He says i love you all the time. He gives hugs before bed every night. He does listen well and is getting better about taking care of himself. He had a girlfriend for a year then it grew toxic and they broke up which was a good call. Hes not a good student either lol. His ADHD makes things harder. Its ok we are getting there. Hes about 5 ft 10. 

L is 13 now. Hes a pretty good student still. Hes a big boy and gets teased a lot in school because of it. That sucks. We manage it as best we can. He plays with his cousins online a lot. And his brothers. Hes just starting puberty which means a lot of angry and fitting when its time to work I wouldent say its  BAD per say. But its really freaking ANNOYING. I guess by the 4th boy through puberty you are over it lol. It can be exhausting. We are at the jobs half done stage in a rush to get back to the things he wants to do instead of what he needs to do. He didnt do chess club this year. I think he got teased for being the fat kid in the geek club. He didnt say as much but there were hints you know. He is over 5 ft 10 and about 280 lbs. He is a big boy. 

A is still mostly sunshine at 11. We recently started to really struggle with clothes on her. Shes a size 000 to 00 if we are lucky. And shes tall. Girls size 8 fits her waist, size 12 her length. They dont HAVE that size lol. We ended up getting some 00s in juniors and were able to fit her length.  She needs a belt though. She joined choir this year. She has consents and plays. So outgoing. She  goes to EVERYONES birthdays at school lol. Shes just an outgoing little shit. Shes also currently sprawled over the entire couch ( all legs i swear) watching you tube on the tv.  

The kids are all doing good. Growing up with as little drama as we can. 
Like Ch got searched at school. Because they found drug evidence in the bathroom so they pulled every kid who used that bathroom all day. And they have cameras in the hall. So he had to be searched. 3rd time this year. Hes clean.

Not much drama there.

The breakup sucked while he was in the feels. But hes no longer annoyingly hanging out after school and I have to wait 20 minutes after i get there, to get him lol. So bonus. Downside is i no longer leave ON TIME to get there by 4 30. lol. Now im creeping up leaving later and later.

This is why i only work half day's on friday to make up for working late. 

T is doing good. HIs main job sucks but is easy money. Hes not really getting much raise and hes bumming. But they dont give good raises either. 

His self employment is doing really good. They are getting more clients. Hes ALMOST making the same amount at that job. But the  main job pays for our health insurance and the side job is sporadic pay. They dont take "wages" on a regular basis because they dont bill with any regularity. 

The side hustle of 3d printing is doing pretty good. We cleared just over 20K this year ( about 40% is expenses still) I did a  black friday sale for 15% off and we had around 20 orders. Which some of them take 30 hours to print. Some take a few hours. Depends on the product. I think we sold about 8 boxes which take 30 hours to print.  Its doing good though. 

We still dont make enough lol. Never make enough to clear debt and keep up with cost of living. Kids still get medicaid ( ish) the buy in version. But we are SO close to being over income for that. 

My job is going good. I got two raises last year and am getting one in January again. Everyone is getting raises. Mine is better then my staff. But still its not bad. I wish it was more really. But every time its more, it puts me over income for the kids medicaid. Then we put more in my 401K to bring it down again. This time we dont need to. Our health insurance for T and I is going up to 800 per month. 
Yeah mostly for me. HIs is only 300 a month, 
But insurance through my company dosent cover my meds and I cant live without them. My migraines are constant otherwise. The neuro is pushing for botox but its 3K copay every 3 months. I cant do that! I stabilized in my weight loss. I went from 200 to 145. I feel pretty good. I look not too bad. I really want to get that last 5-10 lbs off. I cant go much lower then that because I get really boney and unhealthy looking.  Of course im not counting the fact that the scale is up from thanksgiving, 1, im about to have my period so i munch a lot more and bloat/retain.  and 2. Yeah I make a lot of treats this time of year. I just need to make sure I keep my step counts up.  I did good until today.  Im only at 5600. I COULD get out my walking pad. BUUUTT Its 7 pm. I could also drink a zero sugar dr pepper and crochet my blanket. 

Life is going. Its speeding up, its moving fast....