Long time coming in A New Chapter

I have avoided writing about my brother and his situation here, because well, it’s just simply exhausting.
My brother has always been a fascinating Napoleonic type. He has always seemed like he was living in my dad’s shadow of success and regretting it. At the same time, he has always been a very easy to influence person. Hung out with people who rode motorcycles? went out and bought a motorcycle. Made a friend in the Air Force? he joined the Air Force. Worked out with a car salesman? he left his job and started selling cars.

When he met his wife, we were all elated. She seemed to be a good person. She rubbed off on him, in a positive way. He became more responsible and started making better financial decisions. Things started to change as their wedding approached.

She became more demanding and she sometimes insulted him in front of others. They have always said it is “how they talk to each other.” During one pre-wedding dinner, she called my brother a dumb ass or something among those lines. My dad pulled the lady aside and told her its never a good idea to humiliate your husband, specially in front of his friends and family. She said it was a joke and they call themselves shithead, dumb ass, etc all the time.

My brother has always wanted to be like my dad, even if they fight all the time. He is always copying everything he does. With that comes pretending to be wealthy and I think sometimes he sells himself a little bit too well. I think his wife realized it quickly, she was not marrying a wealthy guy. She was marrying the son of a wealthy guy. Today, my brother is successful, not as successful as my dad but he is making progress. It takes time, its not something you can do in a few years.

Fast-forward to the present day, and this woman has a habit of just not having a filter. She says whatever thought she has, regardless of the location and situation. My brother has never expressed a desire to have children. However, once I had a son..suddenly they started trying. Coincidence? who knows. This is where things get tricky:
They had a miscarriage pretty early on, which is common. Then they started struggling. She has a medical condition, she can have children, its just hard. As time went on, finger pointing started. She claims its my brother. He might have weak sperm. The thing is, my brother is an extremely healthy person. He follows a pretty good diet, works out everyday, etc. He is one of those guys. Exams have been done and he is a bit anxious and stressed but nothing out of this world. He does overwork to finance the insanely, financially destructive lifestyle they have.

Meanwhile, she has started getting estrogen shots. They’re also moving into IVF territory.
To add a layer of depth, her father passed away. He was a surprisingly likeable guy who knew my dad, he had worked as his lawyer before. He left behind some land and random stuff for her. She started speaking to a counselor who encouraged her to do what makes her happy. Except, the wife ran with it. Likes dogs? why not adopt an additional 3 large ones? don’t like living in the US all that much? why not build a giant house in the jungle in Central America? you get the point.

There is a lot of emotional manipulation and finger pointing. I’m exhausted already.
This woman is universally hated across the board by the entire family.
Her dad left her mom when she was little.
In my dad’s words “I used to think he was an ass for doing that. But after meeting this girl and her mom, I can see why he ran.”

Music: Bloodsport by The Sneaker Pimps

See You Later Space Cowboy.