Venting in Torridaussity Two

I can’t remember but I’m pretty sure I wrote about the awful Thanksgiving visit we had when traveling to see my brother and future sister in law. I love my brother, he can mess up, he is not perfect, but I think she treats him really crappy at times.
They are having a destination wedding just the 2 of them this month and her sister planned a small bridal shower tomorrow. It was maybe planned a month ago and it fell over my bday weekend this weekend. I was already scheduled to work and had bday plans. But mom dad and I talked we would give it another chance we wanted to show our love to them. So I canceled my plans and rescheduled work. She did apologize for her behavior over Thanksgiving. So I thought it would be okay, but boy it was a mistake.
It started with complaining about our travel plans to get to them and I wasn’t leaving early enough and I better change this and that, not taking into consideration any of mine or my parents health concerns. Then they ended up deciding without telling me what my bday dinner was and then left me little choice on what food we’d get to order. Yet it was supposed to be my choice. Then they planned out today with little to no input from us. She still makes the rudest comments to my brother about everything and was not quiet about his “faults” all day. Really this is spill over of I can’t handle her behavior that comes from when they visited over Mother’s day. They assumed I’d watch their dog without asking me. When we were at the baseball game I was commenting on how I’m not happy I’m at my heaviest weight, but that Dan never makes me feel bad about it and she looked at me and said oh why are you at your heaviest is it because you’ve left yourself go you’ve just gotten too comfortable. I couldn’t believe it…I’m at my heaviest because I cant breathe if i excercise more than a slow walk because of all the damage from covid and almost dying. Who even has the nerve to ask someone if you’ve let yourself go? At dinner she was talking about me behind my back to my brother about a social faux Pas I made and she was so loud I heard it all. It all culminated in me sobbing so hard I had to leave the table to go cry in the restroom.i had to pass the service station where at least 5 waitstaff were standing at. Apparently while I was gone my mom decided to defend my brother against a comment the fiance had made to him and that pissed his fiance off. She had yelled at him for the post he made for me for my bday of a picture of the 3 of us that was not filtered. She said how dare you post that without it being filtered you have not asked me the last couple times. He apologized said he was sorry. She’s like no you’re not you don’t mean what you say or you wouldn’t do it. He posted the pic because it was the only one he had with him and I together and for my birthday not for her. Could you imagine having to approve of every picture of your significant other so it can be filtered. Also she asked me to take a picture of them. I took 2 the one I cut off their feet to get the city skyline. I get told not thank you for taking the pictures, but never take a picture unless you take it from head to toe. I said the place they were standing didn’t allow for it because the garbage can was in the way. She ignored me. She tried to apologize in the bathroom while someone was in the stall and I asked her to stop because I didn’t want to be further embarrassed. She ignored me.
I just don’t get why she thinks her shit don’t stink. I’m glad they love so far away. I can’t handle her.