I'm broken in Torridaussity Two
- Sept. 20, 2014, 9:53 p.m.
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I am sitting here tears running down my face, I think all the stress of the past months has caught up to me. This morning I had an email from Matt, Matt was the last guy who I had been talking to from online dating that seemed to be only interested in sex and we basically parted ways because we were looking for different things. He said he misses me and wants a second chance to talk and work things out. I really am torn as to what to do because we were similar on so many levels and aside from the pressing me when we would have sex he was a nice guy and if he genuinely changed then I should maybe give him a shot. I am not sure if I ever wrote in here about M. He is from England and we have had an interesting friendship/relationship if you will and he basically told me the guy just wants sex. It hurt because why wouldn’t I be good enough for someone to think… I could change for her, I miss her, I want her in my life? Why am I not good enough? Why do men make me cry when they aren’t worth it? I’m broken.
Deleted user ⋅ September 20, 2014
Not to be overly blunt. You are not broken. You are lonely and just wanting someone in your life, that likes you for you. That makes you human. I sincerely hope this guy got in touch with you because he likes you, not because he wants only sex. Sex is fine, but only if it's part of a package, not the only thing.
Always Laughing Deleted user ⋅ September 20, 2014
Thank you, I just feel broken, I'll be better tomorrow.
Deleted user ⋅ September 21, 2014
People change, but not overnight. Consider how often and how he pressured you. And recall how it made you feel. Chances are he's pulling the "I miss you" card. And many women will fall for it thinking "oh he cares". And I would probably take that advice from your friend in England. After all he's a man and knows how they act and think.
Always Laughing Deleted user ⋅ September 21, 2014
I am thinking long and hard about it, thanks
WomanOfSteele ⋅ September 21, 2014
So sorry girl. I know that feel. Don't let him deflate you though! Keep holding out for the right guy. One who will respect you and treat you like the angel you are!
Always Laughing WomanOfSteele ⋅ September 21, 2014
I was more hurt that everyone basically said he only came back to get sex which he knows he isn't getting, not one person said oh wow he must have really liked you Maria and wants that second chance. I emailed him and he said he missed the idea of what we could of been and he missed me too. When I said though that my values and ideals hadn't changed and asked him if his had and that I didn't think I could make him happy if they didn't, he just say ok then...if he really missed me and wanted to be with me in a relationship he wouldn't just give in and say ok then. Ugh
WomanOfSteele Always Laughing ⋅ September 21, 2014
That is too bad and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. But I'm proud of you for sticking to your morals and values! It's so easy to just give them up for a little temporary comfort. But that only ends in more heartache. Good for you girl!
Always Laughing WomanOfSteele ⋅ September 21, 2014
thanks dear, even if I had given him a second chance I wouldn't have given up my morals. As I and my friends say I have waited this long, I am not just going to give it up to some random guy cause he says he missed me.
Deleted user ⋅ September 22, 2014
Keep your head up. Your a complete sweetheart
Always Laughing Deleted user ⋅ September 22, 2014
thanks I am doing ok now
Deleted user Always Laughing ⋅ September 22, 2014
Good I'm glad your better
Deleted user ⋅ September 23, 2014
I would put him to the test and tell him that he could come back into your life - but no sex for a while - see how long he stays around. If he really loves you he will stick around :) Sending you hugs <3
Always Laughing Deleted user ⋅ September 23, 2014
That was my plan and before I said it he offered it so we shall see how things go.
Deleted user Always Laughing ⋅ September 23, 2014
Good, give him three months or maybe two :) I am happy for you...
Azzura ⋅ September 24, 2014
I won't give you advice because this is your decision.
But i can relate to this a lot.
You are worth more than just sex.
If that is what ultimately happens with that guy it says more about HIM than you I hope you know that.
Always Laughing Azzura ⋅ September 24, 2014
thank you and I do know that I just felt crushed almost more so by my friends who all assumed he couldn't come back just because he really did miss me instead hoping my mind would change about sex.