Helen has Surprised Me in Days of My Destiny

My friendship with Helen has reached a point where I am thinking about her everyday. It’s reached the point where we are in touch every other day, if not everyday. It’s reached the point where we know each other pretty damn well. It’s reached the point where we will message each other over the little things and the big things, and message a whole conversation and it’s not a problem.

This has surprised me. Of all the women I have met down here, she was the last one I could’ve ever expected to become close friends with. I admitted to her about a month ago that she’s the only person I consider a real friend down here, and she said it was mutual. I think this has bonded us even more. The other thing that bonded us was our night out together. I had one wine and 2 or 3 vodka and OJ’s, but she had more than that. Men were shouting her drinks and so was I. And she had fun. We laughed and were silly.... it was the first time we were out as US. And it bonded us, because she was nervous about it beforehand, wandering what kind of “drinker” I was and she was worried that she’d make a huge fool of herself in front of me. (Back in her wild days, she’s admitted that she’d reveal her breasts to everyone when drunk!) But she was relieved to see that I don’t judge her, instead, I laugh with her and am silly with her. I guess it was a side to me she didn’t know. She relaxed because I was relaxed. She has a casual guy in her life at the moment (after her last relationship was so wrong - he was in his 40’s and had never left home and literally knew nothing about anything outside of farming. It was a very frustrating time for her) and she tells me about him and I know it’s because she can trust me. She knows I am excited for her and that I understand her situation.

These are the things that make me realise, yes, we are almost best friends.

To the point where the other day, I wasn’t sure if what I was telling her was something I’d already told her or L!!! Now that for sure says we are pretty close these days!

When I realised this (that I couldn’t remember who I’d told my story to, whether it was her or L), I thought about it further and realised that this is the exact reason why we even get along so well: she reminds me of L!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It’s her personality. It’s the way she is relaxed about life (despite soooo many hardships she’s gone through and she’s been in some very dark places - not long before we met). She can have a laugh and she knows herself well and is confident and funny. These are qualities I admire in my own husband!!!! I have thought before that they would get along if they were a couple, but I could never pick why!! Lol. Really though, I think that if they were a couple, she would frustrate L, because I think that as a girlfriend she can be picky and naggy (even though she says so much that she isn’t like that, it shows in other ways) and maybe there’d be a slight streak of high maintenance. But as a friend, she’s pretty awesome!

Yesterday when my certificate came in the mail, I messaged L, my sister and Helen. Helen replied saying she wished she could come over and have a little drink to celebrate with me. I told her she SHOULD (because L was on afternoon shift and after all, I didn’t want to celebrate my big moment all by myself!)… and she did!!! She came over, we had a drink or two, we played pool, we played music, we laughed and talked about all sorts of things and we ate dinner together and then she went home.

And I feel that much closer to her for being there for me in the highs and the lows.