Miracles do Happen! in New Immigrant
- Aug. 17, 2014, 1:32 p.m.
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Just when we had given up hope, Penny arose from her fears and took Jack to tour his soon-to-be residence. Both left elated! Jack said, "Let's go tell the Kids!" so they did.
Jack liked his large, private room and the outdoor space he can use. He can ask for food any time of the day (he loves ice cream) and was urged to do so. Penny was invited and urged to come for meals (free). They can
even bring their cats! Penny can spend nights, take Jack home or out. Staff chatted kindly with Jack and asked him what he liked (watching football).
Afterwards they were making plans for the future, talking about how to
spend all the good days Jack has left. They have always talked openly
about Jack's brain problems and his delusions. One day Jack turned
to Tom and said, "Sometimes Penny doesn't believe me." None of us
had considered Jack's frustration in this way. Tom described to Jack that his delusions are like "dreaming with your eyes open," likening it to
awaking from a dream and sometimes confusing that with the real
world. Adding that is why they couldn't "believe" them. Not that it
"stuck" but it was another tool to use. The main problems focus on
his insistence on following through on his delusions: "I need to mail this immediately." "Tomorrow I have to go into work." Then he becomes
frustrated that he isn't allowed to drive himself to take care of things.
Another day Jack asked angrily, "Who is in charge here?" Tom had to
say that Penny was "because of your health." We'd never thought of
that frustration either. Jack had always been the pro-active, in charge
husband.
One of their continuing joys is to sleep together naked as they've always done. Tom arrived one day and Penny cheerfully announced, "Well, we
both had orgasms!" I add that to emphasize there can also be laughter
and good times between them and there is more communication and
understanding than you'd expect.
Jack's natural outgoing disposition serves him well, even now. Penny's
reclusiveness does not.
Jack told Penny, "I didn't like how it was this week with all the fighting,"
as Penny hit the wall with her frustrations. Now I think they see the
care center helping to give them the needed distance so they can
better enjoy themselves.
Last updated August 17, 2014
thesunnyabyss ⋅ August 17, 2014
it must be so difficult on all sides of the matter,
big huge hugs my friend, much love!!
jamez ⋅ August 17, 2014
RYNote.
All my life there have been American’s waning storms coming our way, our prevailing wind is the from the west, and we thankful you have taken the stuffing out of them before letting them come our way.
I never used the one finger wave again, if the four gentlemen builders could have gone against the flow of the traffic; it could have been worse than being run-over!
Having using roundabouts all my life I’m ok with them, if there is a problem it not the un-sentient artefact, the big traffic island I mention has the A 30 running through it, the problem is most divers use it as a motorway, not an ‘A’ road. There are two islands as we near Newquay, and those are fine!
Cornwall also has it’s own double roundabouts, now other county in the country has these, the are two small traffic islands next to each other, the idea is you should only enter the first when the second is clear for you. With us driving left and if we are turning left we only use the first island, if we are going straight on or turning right then we will use the second island also …… I doubt your road planners will take those on!
All our dogs, Misty – Lucky – Daisy – Lola and Ziggy all liked what ever came out of the oven, Ziggy doesn’t like fan over we have here, so he levees the kitchen; and returns once the oven is off. The cupcakes were for Daughters birthday today, her gifts were mostly water a acrylic painting, one exception is a bottle of champagne, this she keeps for Christmas Day; her birthday – Christmas tradition.
To laugh is good, to laugh at your self is even better, and quite useful as we age, now and then I have a laugh abut my self wondering if I have yesterday’s date some where on my body!
My Mother-in-law could laugh at her self quite freely, she used to take her friends to a Ladies Club at Church, as a group they could talk, and Mrs Sothern could talk for England if not for Grate Brittan. She was widowed quite young and of course she was lonely, once or twice I went to see her for my Mother-in-law, getting away was difficult no mater you have been there, as you left she would follow you to the gate, and some times up the street.
I recall one Friday evening Mother-in-law coming in laughing, she had returned from the Ladies Club, once in the car she realised she had her writing glasses on, the chatting had started when she asked Mrs Sothern to pass her driving glasses from the glove-box, Mrs Sothern did and they set of home, driving through Shrewsbury she told her passengers it seemed very dark that evening, they said it was ok so mother-in-law carried on; concerned about her eyes.
Her three passengers all lived close by, Mrs Sothern was the last, parking the car on the drive she got out, the out side light was on so she looked at her glasses; Mrs Sothern had passed Mother-in-law’s sunglasses! She said what would a Police officer had though if we were stopped, me driving in dark night wearing sunglasses.
When I see a stack of comments in the inbox, and I know who that is, its all ways a pick-up reading your notes; thanks ….
Beret ⋅ August 18, 2014
I wish Penny and Jack the best. Sounds like a wonderful place for him and the fact that they are so willing to work with their residents.
Ragdolls ⋅ August 18, 2014
NorthernSeeker ⋅ August 19, 2014
It's great that the care centre can be so flexible and let Penny come and go. That will really improve the quality of life for both of them.
I LOVE the top photo...well done.