Ugh in TIME Flies and other Thoughts

A couple of weeks ago during a ZOOM gathering with my Brother-in-law and his wife, he had this great idea (in his opinion). He said, “Let’s go to the Holy Lands together”. My Husband immediately said, “YES!” and I immediately said, “I’m NOT going”.

It is something I have NEVER been interested in. I don’t care if this is ~supposedly where Jesus walked. Or even if it was, I don’t care. And etc. I have ZERO interest in any of that.
Not to mention, it is dangerous!
Yes, I have read that they want and count of Tourist. And if you read online it talks about that it is safe there.. Well just don’t stray off into unsafe areas. But it is still in an area of Unrest. Things can change in a flash! It is risky in my opinion.

Years ago, there was a Gal at the Open Diary who lived in Israel. She was American, but married to a man from Israel. They had 2-3 daughters. She wrote about her life there and the dangers. She talked about the risk of when they had to take a bus into Tel Aviv. Does anyone remember her?

It says online- “Tourist infrastructure in this city is excellent because it is a financial and technological hub of the country and it is very worth visiting. Tel Aviv is a bubble of a city. It remains relatively unaffected by the conflicts. it is both a safe city to travel to and a fun one at that. Tel Aviv can be considered an overall safe city in terms of crime. However, frequent terrorist attacks, making it more dangerous than it is”,
(((My Note… It is that Frequent that sends a shiver down my spine).
I’ve seen the random Bombing in the news.
My husband is like, “If it is your time to go it is your time”

Online it also says- “Tourists should also be very vigilant when traveling in the West Bank or East Jerusalem, including the city of Bethlehem. While the area is safe for tourists, transport can be tricky therefore travelers are encouraged to only go to these areas as part of an organized tour.”
And then it says:
“It’s understandable to be cautious about traveling to Israel considering how the conflict appears on world news. However, it’s statistically very safe to travel in Israel. Personal safety in Israel is always incredibly high and crime very low, especially when compared to many Western countries and cities. In regard to crime, traveling in Israel is actually safer than staying at home in the UK, USA, or most other western countries.”

SO......................

My Brother and sister in-law were soooooo excited. And they expected us both to be the same. If I don’t go, it is them two and my husband. A little uneven. I don’t know my Sister in law well. They have been married 2.6 years. They come to dinner about every 3 months. We visit and play games. This certainly would be a great way to bond with her more.
I know how disappointed everyone would be if not a little bummed.
But even still, I don’t want to go.

My husband and I talked about it and he was like, “We can do other trips together in the USA, we don’t have to around the world to bond more”. This is true. He seemed respectfully understanding at that moment. I really appreciated that!
I was thinking about how disengaged my husband is to most travel. Once we had opportunity to go to Hawaii with my Dad, his wife, My 2 brothers and one of their mates, and the mate’s parents. My husband refused to go but I could go. He said, “Take pictures” I didn’t want to go without him.. which in hindsight was a bummer I missed out. But anytime I talk about going traveling anywhere, He says I can go and to take pictures.
Well, that is EXACTLY how I feel about this trip. Take Pictures. Although I am not even interested in seeing the Pictures. Boring!

A few days later we were on ZOOM again and my husband said, for sure, I was NOT going. But I mistakenly piped up and said, “Maybe I will” WELL, THAT changed everything in all minds. Because my Maybe became their I will. Only I didn’t realize that that for a week or so.

We were on ZOOM again and they are talking about this trip I voice that I am not sure about going and my Sister-in-law said, “I don’t know if this will help you decide or not, but I would really like it if you went”.
UGH! Really? I don’t want to go but now she has laid a guilt trip on me.

And then my other Sister-in-law is interested, and she is going too. Now if anyone needs to bond, it is the two sisters-in-law. They have never met except on ZOOM. Maybe this is my out. I can see the dynamics of 3 sister in laws compared to 2.

As plans are starting to become more apparent, I voice again to my husband that I really don’t want to go, and he says, “I think you should go, it will be fun”.
UGH, He seriously didn’t just say that!??

They all think this is a Trip of a Lifetime!
Seriously??

I saw at a Senior Center that they are planning a 7-day trip to Brandson in October. Now THAT excites me! Let’s go! I have never been, but I remember my Dad and his wife so enjoyed it several times. And I have heard others have too. I would like to go someday. My husband has ZERO interest. He thinks it sounds boring. I would go without him and have a great time!
That is more worth spending that kind of money on, to me.

So, STINKKKKKKKKK!
I am obligated to go even though I clearly don’t want to.
It is dangerous, I don’t want to fly that far and I am not interested.
They all know how I feel.
And they are all looking forward to me coming.
If ONLY… I hadn’t said.... MAYBE I WILL GO.

I won’t keep voicing my negative thoughts.
But I also won’t show any excitement about going, because I have none.
And on the trip, I will remain fairly low keyed.
Or… I think I will.

I’ll let you know how it went....

Last updated January 20, 2023