Boundaries, FOO, Superstition is Cowardice in Journal

Boundaries, I have without exception experienced, are useful only as an internal asshole radar system. It’s fine (I guess) to “have” boundaries- but no one who you would actually need to have them with will ever respect them anyways.
That’s basically the entire purpose- or at the purpose according to all the self-help gurus. Just have boundaries. lol. How about just don’t hang around assholes? Then, not only don’t you need boundaries but you can relax and enjoy your time with other people. Without being defensive or vigilant. Life is too short for that.

The more time and space that accumulates between the FOO and I- both physically and internally as emotional/mental- the more clearly fucked up they become. The farther away I get, the more destruction and carnage I feel from my past that could have been avoided. Why did I stay so long?
The real question is, why did I finally leave? The long and short of it is, I found philosophy. I discovered independent thought. I began to apply the principles to my life; in and out. No one much liked that. Least of all my FOO. Nor DH’s FOO.
With independent thought and clarity, it is truly terrifying what we might discover.

The avoidance of moral philosophy and the terrifying discoveries it brings leaves the intellectual with a curious dilemma; a vacuum of responsible actors. One solution it would seem to this cowardly avoidance is to invent ways in which victims are responsible for their own victimhood; to say that the unlucky are responsible for their misfortune. And, this falseness dilutes the true heroism of self ownership. It is none of my honor if success is merely a karmic fate. Nor am I ever a true victim justified in self defense if I chose to be raped, murdered, or stolen from. It is the denial of violence! Since rape, assault, murder and theft exist only if the victim dissents. The category of aggression disappears once it is chosen; it becomes voluntary, consentual. The espouser of reincarnation gives full chosen responsibility to the victims of violence and aggression, it’s just removed in time.
It is only cowardice, and a service to evil, to claim reincarnation, karma, or superstition.