Lucky? Maybe Not.... in Help Me Please

I think if you feel fortunate it’s all in your mind set and if you are depressed that is also a mind set and everything you are going through is just a matter of a fix and a mind set.
I use to think that I wasn’t loved and people just tolerated me but later in life I realized that I am loved and I need to be around.
When my ex left I thought that was the end of the world and that me and my son were going to be all all alone. But as it turned out my parents were much happier that I wasn’t living with a drunk and unemployed person who wouldn’t go to work so the rent could be paid. And back then the fridge was always full of beer and hardly any food. But my son and I did do okay with his dad there. It was just a matter of time before he left and I could be living instead of wondering if the ex was going to die of alcohol poisoning.
later in life I decided that maybe my son should look for his dad but he wasn’t ready to do that yet. And as for child support I never did get it but by the time my son was 19 is when the ex was 65 and getting a pension so the government too part of that and I gave it to my son. All of $30.00 a month for like two or three years.
The only make figure my son did have was my brother and that turned out to be really good.

But what I do understand is why some parents especially dad’s always complain they don’t have a relationship with their children when in fact they do? it is still 24/7 but it’s just not in the same place. And they say they don’t have a relationship with them but the truth is they do it’s just different is all and they do get to take them places and they do get to spend days and nights with them and some holidays.
Now if a dad doesn’t see his children and doesn’t spend nights and weekends and holidays with them then that is a choice that the dad’s made not anyone else. And if the dad wants more then he has to tolerate the ex and pretend to be nice so he can have and be an equal parent.
Why is it men who are divorced or separated always complain about the ex wife and never the children? If they really want to be with her then why not try again? Why can’t they live together and both parent? I wish I could have done that with my ex but he just didn’t want to work and he drank all day and watched sports on TV and slept all day till dinner. He never did go grocery shopping with me or to appointments but then he never did go see the doctor or the dentist either.
In the end my ex died from what I was told a medical issue so I just thought it was a heart attack near where he lived on the sidewalk. And a few months later my son went to his memorial and that was the first and last time he saw all his cousins.
So my son was literally without a father for more then 20 years so when fathers say they don’t have a real relationship with their children just consider yourself lucky if you get to see them on the weekends and holidays plus there is always the phone and face book to connect.
And if the ex wife is lucky enough to find someone else to have a relationship with just make sure that the children like him because if they don’t it won’t be a good relationship. For every new relationship I was in I did ask my son what he thought and he always told me if I am happy then it doesn’t matter what he thinks because it is me that has to be the happy one and my son was always nice to these guys.
Then in my 40’s I met hubby and it’s been really good it’s now 14 years and we still like to go places together and we like each others company and he really likes what he eats and always tells me his meals are good. And he would rather come home after work then to go to the bar with his friends. But then he hasn’t seen his friends in a number of years and he really has no desire to re-connect with them either. Most of them are married and work so they don’t have much time anyways to be together and get drunk.
Here is a question for you? Do you remember who your ex’s were? do you still remember their names? I remember two of them but I did have a few more but I remember they were all drunks and I didn’t like that.

Onto something else....

Today is left over Fridays so hubby will be having the left overs and I won’t be eating today because it’s my no eating just drinking day. And later this morning I will be going to do some grocery shopping and yes I do have my list but the chances I actually follow it will be something else because I always forget I have it. But for some reason I always remember the important things I need so I always and usually end up with more then what I came for. But I think everyone shops like that. And if you are one of those who likes to eat healthy then you need to stay away from the isles and when you go by them just wave hello and good bye. Because everything around the perimeter of the store is all the healthy foods that you need to live and function.
Anyways I need to stop here and start my day so you do have a grand day....

Be Kind, Be Calm, Be Safe and Behave.

Last updated October 29, 2021