Do I count as a Mother today?
Today was Mother's Day. Mike, his mother and I went to church this morning. At church they recognized me as a mother when they gave a rose to each mother in attendance. Back home, we gave Mike's mom a carseat and a nice card. She said it was the most thoughtful gift she has ever received. She was teary eyed.
Back story/tangent- her Son-in-Law will not allow his children to ride in cars, only trucks. Therefore, she was never allowed to take her granddaughter anywhere when she lived here in VA (they moved when the oldest was 2). My MIL was very hurt by her SIL many times verbally. He is a very controlling individual with a terrible temper and never allows his wife any freedom or time away from their 2 children. It's torture for her to live 8hrs away from her family, have no vehicle during the day (he takes the truck), and not be "allowed" to work or take college online classes even. He determines all spending and makes all family choices.
Back on track...My MIL understood the significance of the car seat. We trust her to take our child anywhere, anytime. She is a very cautious individual with a perfect driving record and there is no reason she cannot watch her own grandchild. She would not go out joy riding but will love taking our daughter to the park, to her house for a few hours or even just picking her up from the babysitter a few hours early if she has a day off of work or a half day.
After calling my Mimi (grandmother) and my mother we went to lunch. It was a nice date with Mike and his mom.
We came home and I took a nap for about 1.5hrs with my dog in the bed. When I got up Mike laid on the couch with me rubbing his head for a bit. I then went into the bathroom and to charge my phone. He was asleep when I returned so I did paperwork in the bedroom while he was sleeping on the couch. It's been about 3-4hrs and he is STILL asleep so I ate dinner without him and have towels in the washer. I took a shower and now I sit here and play a little. When he is awake, I'll have him carry the laundry basket down to the basement so I can do a load of clothing for us. I have stopped carrying it down the steps at about 15 weeks because the steps are narrow and I have to hold the basket in front of my stomach and cannot see the steps. They are cement as is the floor and it makes me nervous to have a fall during pregnancy.
My original question again...Do I count? Am I a mother this Mother's Day or next Mother's Day based on most opinions about this holiday? Some people wished me a Happy Mother's Day, my MIL even did but Mike did not. I was reading on many pregnancy boards all the first time moms-to-be that were hurt their husbands and boyfriends did not acknowledge them as mothers. I am not hurt. I feel like I am not a mom yet because if she was born today she would not survive. I am at 23 weeks.
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