How to Proceed in Life

Now I’m gonna preface this with saying that I’m prone to paranoia and this is a broken record entry about Pam and her Cellphone.

Yesterday Elly got her vaccinations and they went as well as they could. Given the new ‘normal’ Pam had to go into the appointment on her own with Elly and I could hear Elly crying through into the lobby. We went and did some normal people shopping, with Elly going back to daycare soon we figured all quarantine bets were off until later notice so we took Elly in with us and carried her around so she couldn’t touch everything and get too close to people. Pretty non-descript day.

But as the day went on and I started to cook dinner Pam was pretty much on her phone from the start of dinner, through dinner and after dinner and it really got under my skin. So one of the things we bought was new curtains which I had to put up and she was on her cellphone through all of it. Granted I didn’t need help so I didn’t ask for help but I don’t think anyone likes to be the only one in the room working while someone else is on their cellphone. Elly was in there too running her usual chaos gambit while Pam just ignored her and then I was just about done setting up the curtains and thinking about what else I had to do so I asked “Is the kitchen clean from dinner” Not “Did you Clean the kitchen” nothing passive aggressive like that and she stomps out in a huff “God forbid I have a conversation!”

Wtf was that?

She stomped off to clean the kitchen and the whole event just left a bad taste in my mouth. We didn’t discuss it the rest of the night but it’s eating at me so I know I’m going to have to pop that zit today.

Earlier last week I was like “Hey you’re on your cellphone a lot” and she said “So are you” so I conceded and said “You’re right, I think we both need to be on our cellphone’s less” and I believe I’ve made a damn good effort for it but being on it all through dinner is really just the line for me. That’s insulting to me as a cook and as a husband and just on so many levels it pisses me off. We have a kid, I don’t want them to grow up thinking it’s okay to be on your cellphone all the time but maybe if she sees it she’ll be annoyed by it.

At some point Elly brought a book to her while she was on her phone and she just put it on her lap and ignored Elly until she was finished talking to who ever and /eventually/ read the book to her.

The whole thing is throwing up a lot of red flags for me and like I said, I’m prone to be paranoid so maybe I’m reading too much into it but I really don’t like how it’s making me feel and I’m not sure how to approach it without pissing her off.